My parents allowed my youngest brother to be “homeschooled”, and I’m angry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the school system and report it. Depending on where you live, he legally needs to be in school or be following an approved homeschool program.

She’s right. Legally home schoolers are required to submit curricula and evidence of home schooling. What they are doing is not legal and abusive/neglectful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Call the school system and report it. Depending on where you live, he legally needs to be in school or be following an approved homeschool program.

She’s right. Legally home schoolers are required to submit curricula and evidence of home schooling. What they are doing is not legal and abusive/neglectful.

Very state-dependent, and in a couple of states, 17 & 18 year olds can drop out (with parental consent). In Oklahoma, for example, there are no regulations regarding homeschooling.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Call the school system and report it. Depending on where you live, he legally needs to be in school or be following an approved homeschool program.

If only that was true.

My granola cousin "homeschools" her kids and it's disgraceful the lack of learning they actually do. She considers playing outside "science".

She provides a letter each year that states the kids are progressing on-track. She's allowed to do this because she holds a Master's degree. She has to provide absolutely ZERO test results to back up her claim.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The good thing is someday you can have your own kids and do everything perfectly right and really show them. Because it's clear you have all the answers.

OP ignore this troll. You are doing a good thing by caring and trying to help your brother.

Nope. I have a brother like this and I have learned to just stay out of it.

That's not what you posted though. Your post suggested that the OP was a know it all and should mind her business.

But she does think she knows best. She is not the parent. She can't fix this. When she has her own kids she will understand.

Were you a know it all when you tried to help?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If he has a history of refusing to go to school and also gets terrible grades, I think it was smart of our parents to pull him out. I did the same for my HS senior for those exact reasons. Are you sure he's not doing the work? The program my kid is in doesen't have class hours, they were just given the work and have to complete it by the deadline. And I told my kid, I already completed HS and have a diploma, this is up to him. I'm not gong to micro-manage, I'm not going to hound him and look over his shoulder. I told him this is his responsibility and he needs to step up to the plate. Now i do still check-up on him but to an extent. I also told him he will always have a place to live as long as I'm alive and as LONG as he is holding up his end of the bargain. I'm not supporting an unemployed 25-year-old who plays video games all day and smokes weed. And I mean that, he will not be living under my roof in that scenario. As long as he is working (or in school) and making choices to better himself and become independent, I'll always have his back. Your parents need to have a come to jesus conversation with your brother. You should also talk to him, if you're close like that.

Will you adopt me so that I can play video games all day in your basement?

If I adopted you, you wouldn't be allowed to do that.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think any judge or state is going to care that a 17.5 year old doesn’t go to school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The good thing is someday you can have your own kids and do everything perfectly right and really show them. Because it's clear you have all the answers.

Get bent, loser.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t think any judge or state is going to care that a 17.5 year old doesn’t go to school.

Right. No one with authority is going to do anything about it, since the brother can drop out of school at 18. And OP can't do anything, other than let this go.

If the brother has no interest in school, there's no way to force him to care. Even if he's somehow forced back into high school, he won't take it seriously, so what would be the point?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The good thing is someday you can have your own kids and do everything perfectly right and really show them. Because it's clear you have all the answers.

Get bent, loser.

Why you mad, bro?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Call the school system and report it. Depending on where you live, he legally needs to be in school or be following an approved homeschool program.

If only that was true.

My granola cousin "homeschools" her kids and it's disgraceful the lack of learning they actually do. She considers playing outside "science".

She provides a letter each year that states the kids are progressing on-track. She's allowed to do this because she holds a Master's degree. She has to provide absolutely ZERO test results to back up her claim.

I am homeschooling right now. It is dependent on the state.

[Anonymous]

OP, it sounds like your brother isn't going to do well in high school no matter what. I wouldn't report him, just encourage him to do the bare minimum (whatever that is in that state) to graduate.

He will need you to encourage him to actually move forward in life once he doesn't have sports to fall back on. Might as well let him have fun now, because it's going to end when his high school career ends.

[Anonymous]

I would look at trade internships and have him talk to some trade recruiters (hvac, electrical, construction, welding) to get him thinking about his future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would look at trade internships and have him talk to some trade recruiters (hvac, electrical, construction, welding) to get him thinking about his future.

Is he local? Here’s a good one:
https://www.henselphelps.com/careers/internships/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would look at trade internships and have him talk to some trade recruiters (hvac, electrical, construction, welding) to get him thinking about his future.

He does not want to do those things. OP can’t “have him” do anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would look at trade internships and have him talk to some trade recruiters (hvac, electrical, construction, welding) to get him thinking about his future.

He does not want to do those things. OP can’t “have him” do anything.

?? Based on what?