New coworker is struggling to fit in

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stay polite and help her fit in.

Your boss shouldn’t be confiding those ‘conversations’ with you all. Which makes me think it’s not just her that is the problem.

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Sounds like a toxic work environment. How exhausting.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Stay polite and help her fit in.

Your boss shouldn’t be confiding those ‘conversations’ with you all. Which makes me think it’s not just her that is the problem.

+2

Sounds like a toxic work environment. How exhausting.

Agree. Sounds like everyone here, including you and your boss, is being a little immature.

[Anonymous]

As someone in a similar position to the woman you're describing, I may be new to the company I joined more than a year ago, but I've been in this field for decades. I know so much about so many people. I am a credible person in my field.

There is a woman at my place of business who reported to the person who had my job prior to me. I took her out to lunch just to be social with her. Everyone in the office dislikes her. I felt sorry for her. However, she honestly believed in her mind that because she was in the office for two months prior to the pandemic, and she had been with the company for three years, that she should be my boss. It's laughable. Some of the work products that she thinks all I do is "copy pasta," I am actually the original author and creator of those products. There have been so many mergers and acquisitions in my field. She's actually the one doing nothing but copy pasta.

Maybe your perspective is messed up, OP.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You all sound like you lack empathy and are a bit mean. Moving and changing jobs are two of the biggest stresses in life. Cut her some slack and stop being so mean. Give her time and space to adjust and she will change. If everyone at your workplace is like you, it's probably toxic anyway and eventually she will leave.

This, sadly.

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OP, you sound like a jerk. Why not offer to help her learn? Management is not doing their part by clarifying expectations and mentoring.

Sounds like she’d be better off leaving than trying to ingratiate herself to your work clique.

Ahh look two people who found time to blame OP, how on brand for DCUM. You didn’t read the post because OP said management has had several sit downs. Learn to read?

To be sure, OP sounds threatened by the new colleague

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What the heck is a trade organization? An association? What size was it? I find it hard to believe the head of any large association would take an individual contributor role below several people in a company.

If she was president of a legit national trade association in your industry, she would have deep connections and would be someone you don’t want to make angry. But maybe she led a local chapter or a small volunteer group and not a big association

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stay polite and help her fit in.

Your boss shouldn’t be confiding those ‘conversations’ with you all. Which makes me think it’s not just her that is the problem.

+2

Sounds like a toxic work environment. How exhausting.

Agree. Sounds like everyone here, including you and your boss, is being a little immature.

Agreed. Sounds like they are intimidated by her actually.