Not on Facebook

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Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

No it’s what my friends who are not on Facebook tell me. I actually have true authentic friends who are not afraid to be vulnerable. Jealousy is the #1 reason social media is a problem

I’m not not jealous because my life is amazing. I’m not jealous because I don’t GAF.

Not everybody is built that way and that’s okay,

You sound insufferable. I bet your friends left social media to get away from your personality, and not because their jealous.

So you’re somebody who gets jealous and can admit it

I absolutely can get jealous. It’s very human— the key is to understand how to deal with jealousy (hint: it’s about what you want or find lacking in your own life, not about the other person).

But I would never be jealous of someone like you.

I have no desire for anybody to be jealous of me and quite frankly, I don’t think anybody is. Why would anybody want that the reality is jealousy is normal and that is one reason a lot of people are not on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

My husband has an account but never looks at it. Then he makes fun of me for looking at it every day...he thinks it's just gossip and phonies. Yet, he complains that he doesn't know what's going on. What? My old favorite band from the 1990s played a show and my friends went? Why didn't I know about this? Or at a family gathering, "cousin Liz had another baby? How did I not know this?"

[Anonymous]

I think it’s pretty normal. 5 - 10 years ago it would have been unusual. I have an account but only look at it a couple times year and haven’t been active for about 2 years. Very few people my age post anything any more. I’m 47.

I’m also using Instagram way less in the last year or so. My friends just aren’t into it any more.

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Anonymous wrote:They lurk on FB by going on via their spouse’s or parent’s account. My husband does this. Several of my friends do this. I think it’s weird.

Lol, my former friend blocked me but I still look at her posts through my husband's Facebook. I just like to see what types of things she's saying about friendship, loyalty and integrity (she was a total jerk to me and tried to flip the script like I'd hurt her-and ever since, she posts these stupid quotes and memes about true friendship). It's a problem, I don't know why I still look at her FB. I guess just to keep tabs on whether she's still a jerk or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty normal. 5 - 10 years ago it would have been unusual. I have an account but only look at it a couple times year and haven’t been active for about 2 years. Very few people my age post anything any more. I’m 47.

I’m also using Instagram way less in the last year or so. My friends just aren’t into it any more.

I'm 47 and it seems like Facebook is THE main mode of communication and sharing amongst my age group. Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They lurk on FB by going on via their spouse’s or parent’s account. My husband does this. Several of my friends do this. I think it’s weird.

+1 my two friends who aren’t on fb do this all the time. So strange.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I know a few guys who are not on Facebook. One has multiple girlfriends. The other likes complete autonomy.
It’s a red flag

+1

This is why society/teenagers are on it so much. Who wants to be labeled as the weirdo?

And when is wanting autonomy a red flag?

Society is doomed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re young.

This. FB is for deranged grannies. My MIL is on Facebook

[Anonymous]

Highly intelligent. Knows the concerns with cybersecurity and someone else owning your photos, news, life choices, etc.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

No it’s what my friends who are not on Facebook tell me. I actually have true authentic friends who are not afraid to be vulnerable. Jealousy is the #1 reason social media is a problem

I’m not not jealous because my life is amazing. I’m not jealous because I don’t GAF.

Not everybody is built that way and that’s okay,

#ThatHappened

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it’s pretty normal. 5 - 10 years ago it would have been unusual. I have an account but only look at it a couple times year and haven’t been active for about 2 years. Very few people my age post anything any more. I’m 47.

I’m also using Instagram way less in the last year or so. My friends just aren’t into it any more.

I'm 47 and it seems like Facebook is THE main mode of communication and sharing amongst my age group. Interesting.

Huh, 45 and I don't feel that way at all. DH and I have a text chain with a group of our closest friends, and I keep in touch with some people via WhatsApp (some of my friends have moved abroad so we can't text another way. I go on Instagram intermittently but never post anymore, and it seems like that's true for a lot of people -- when I go on, it's mostly posts from businesses or artists I follow. I quit Facebook about 5 years ago and haven't missed it and it hasn't impacted my friendships at all. Most people I know don't use Facebook much if at all. Mostly I use text to stay in touch with people, occasionally someone contacts me via LinkedIn or Instagram. I still get emails from old friends sometimes. I just don't need Facebook.

I feel like Facebook is for my mom (who loves it). It's for people who aren't very internet or tech savvy and want a resource where everything is the same. I read once that Facebook flattens the internet out and puts everything (people, businesses, media sources, events) in the same interface. I think that's why it's so appealing to older people who didn't get enough exposure to the internet when they were young and still just don't really know how to use it.

[Anonymous]

They have serious jealousy issues and their therapist advised them to get off social media.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have serious jealousy issues and their therapist advised them to get off social media.

This is frankly an insane projection. I'm not on Facebook, have no "jealousy issues", and my therapist and I mostly talk about the challenges I've had in dealing with my aging parents. I am not on Facebook because I did it for a while and found it boring, and then discovered all this questionable stuff Facebook does with my data and decided I'd prefer not to hadn't them information in that way.

You are weird.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What does this say about a person?

It says they don't waste hours and hours of their time caring about what others are doing or what others think about them. They are secure. The rest of us just enjoy seeing what other people are doing. I love looking at vacation photos. I'll never get to go most of those places so....

[Anonymous]

They work in the tech industry.