Not on Facebook

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:They lurk on FB by going on via their spouse’s or parent’s account. My husband does this. Several of my friends do this. I think it’s weird.

Why do you let him use your account then?

Also, I’m not on FB and I don’t do this even though my DH has an account. Is it really that hard to imagine that someone just doesn’t want to be on FB?

If I know people IRL who do this, then why dispute it? It’s a fact.

Consider that you might be the outlier, pp.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They lurk on FB by going on via their spouse’s or parent’s account. My husband does this. Several of my friends do this. I think it’s weird.

Why do you let him use your account then?

Also, I’m not on FB and I don’t do this even though my DH has an account. Is it really that hard to imagine that someone just doesn’t want to be on FB?

If I know people IRL who do this, then why dispute it? It’s a fact.

Consider that you might be the outlier, pp.

I guess I don’t even understand what they are doing on FB with someone else’s account? Just looking at stuff? Or are they like stalking people? And if the latter, how do they do that with a spouse’s or parent’s account— my parents have FB accounts but I can’t imagine they are connected to people I’d want to try and find out about? What is the point of using someone else’s FB account?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They lurk on FB by going on via their spouse’s or parent’s account. My husband does this. Several of my friends do this. I think it’s weird.

Why do you let him use your account then?

Also, I’m not on FB and I don’t do this even though my DH has an account. Is it really that hard to imagine that someone just doesn’t want to be on FB?

If I know people IRL who do this, then why dispute it? It’s a fact.

Consider that you might be the outlier, pp.

I guess I don’t even understand what they are doing on FB with someone else’s account? Just looking at stuff? Or are they like stalking people? And if the latter, how do they do that with a spouse’s or parent’s account— my parents have FB accounts but I can’t imagine they are connected to people I’d want to try and find out about? What is the point of using someone else’s FB account?

They act like they aren’t on FB, but they really are via their spouse’s account. So they can see all the posts. They just don’t post themselves. Or they post their vacation pics but it looks like their partner did it.

My best guess is they don’t want to be searchable under their name and/or they like to brag about not being on FB…but they really are.

So weird.

[Anonymous]

I know so many nosey soccer moms who monitor everyone’s life on Facebook that I just wait to hear the updates from them when I’m at work. So, no, not on Fb…

[Anonymous]

I have more respect for them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

No it’s what my friends who are not on Facebook tell me. I actually have true authentic friends who are not afraid to be vulnerable. Jealousy is the #1 reason social media is a problem

I’m not not jealous because my life is amazing. I’m not jealous because I don’t GAF.

Not everybody is built that way and that’s okay,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They’re young.

This is true awesome but they’re on Instagram, which is essentially the same

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:They lurk on FB by going on via their spouse’s or parent’s account. My husband does this. Several of my friends do this. I think it’s weird.

Why do you let him use your account then?

Also, I’m not on FB and I don’t do this even though my DH has an account. Is it really that hard to imagine that someone just doesn’t want to be on FB?

If I know people IRL who do this, then why dispute it? It’s a fact.

Consider that you might be the outlier, pp.

I guess I don’t even understand what they are doing on FB with someone else’s account? Just looking at stuff? Or are they like stalking people? And if the latter, how do they do that with a spouse’s or parent’s account— my parents have FB accounts but I can’t imagine they are connected to people I’d want to try and find out about? What is the point of using someone else’s FB account?

They act like they aren’t on FB, but they really are via their spouse’s account. So they can see all the posts. They just don’t post themselves. Or they post their vacation pics but it looks like their partner did it.

My best guess is they don’t want to be searchable under their name and/or they like to brag about not being on FB…but they really are.

So weird.

If you know more than one person who does this, I think there is something weird going on in your social circle. I agree it's deeply weird, but I don't think it's a widespread thing.

I also question if you actually know this or just think you do, because I have a hard time imagining someone telling anyone that they do this unless it's like a one-off thing. Like they aren't on FB but when a friend from college got married, they use their spouse's account to go view the photos or something. Which I would not consider strange. But if people are using a spouse's account regularly, I just can't imagine them sharing that with you. It sounds like obsessive behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

No it’s what my friends who are not on Facebook tell me. I actually have true authentic friends who are not afraid to be vulnerable. Jealousy is the #1 reason social media is a problem

I’m not not jealous because my life is amazing. I’m not jealous because I don’t GAF.

Not everybody is built that way and that’s okay,

You sound insufferable. I bet your friends left social media to get away from your personality, and not because their jealous.

[Anonymous]

I think the jealousy thing is part of the reason but in that I don't want to elicit jealousy. Dh does not have it either but I doubt anyone posts anything of interest I need to see. Most people tell me not to bother as its a political cesspool (when I ask if I should sign up for school news)

[Anonymous]

Probably younger. Don’t need it. Or work for a job where they have a govt job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

No it’s what my friends who are not on Facebook tell me. I actually have true authentic friends who are not afraid to be vulnerable. Jealousy is the #1 reason social media is a problem

I’m not not jealous because my life is amazing. I’m not jealous because I don’t GAF.

Not everybody is built that way and that’s okay,

You sound insufferable. I bet your friends left social media to get away from your personality, and not because their jealous.

So you’re somebody who gets jealous and can admit it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It either means they can’t handle not feeling jealous or they think it takes too much time.

For example, very few men are on Facebook but also very few men have social groups call upon what they need help.

If you use the right way, social media keeps you in contact with many people.

But if you are a person who gets really jealous at seeing somebody’s beautiful children, amazing vacations or successful adult children. It’s just really not a good place for you.

Lol is that what you tell yourself

No it’s what my friends who are not on Facebook tell me. I actually have true authentic friends who are not afraid to be vulnerable. Jealousy is the #1 reason social media is a problem

I’m not not jealous because my life is amazing. I’m not jealous because I don’t GAF.

Not everybody is built that way and that’s okay,

You sound insufferable. I bet your friends left social media to get away from your personality, and not because their jealous.

So you’re somebody who gets jealous and can admit it

I absolutely can get jealous. It’s very human— the key is to understand how to deal with jealousy (hint: it’s about what you want or find lacking in your own life, not about the other person).

But I would never be jealous of someone like you.

[Anonymous]

They're not a Boomer or Genx!