Sleepover etiquette

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DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

NP its the adults that notice these things. Maybe some girls too but boys in general are more interested in play and do not notice or care much about clothing choices. As long they have some shirt and pants/shorts they are good to go.

And they are putting on their jammies right before bed so it is probably not all that noticeable. They are not wearing them all night long. They take them off and throw them away in the morning. I would guess that it is more noticeable the following morning since the pul ups are in the trash can.

It is possible that lots of kids are not going to make fun of friends who need pull ups.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

DS did not tell me that anyone called it a diaper. I doubt anyone said anything since 4 of the 5 kids at his first sleepover were wearing pull-ups. He did not say anything to his friends at their most recent sleep over. Perhaps he has friends who don't care or don't see the need to make fun of a friend for needing sleeping underwear?

It’s surprising how many kids wear them well into elementary school. I also have met parents who decide to just use regular diapers until their kids outgrow them.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

DS did not tell me that anyone called it a diaper. I doubt anyone said anything since 4 of the 5 kids at his first sleepover were wearing pull-ups. He did not say anything to his friends at their most recent sleep over. Perhaps he has friends who don't care or don't see the need to make fun of a friend for needing sleeping underwear?

Did you host the sleepover or was it at someone else’s house? Was he at all surprised that so many other kids are in the same situation?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

DS did not tell me that anyone called it a diaper. I doubt anyone said anything since 4 of the 5 kids at his first sleepover were wearing pull-ups. He did not say anything to his friends at their most recent sleep over. Perhaps he has friends who don't care or don't see the need to make fun of a friend for needing sleeping underwear?

Did you host the sleepover or was it at someone else’s house? Was he at all surprised that so many other kids are in the same situation?

He has been to friends houses and we have had kids over here. He has never commented on it and I have not asked him about it. Honestly, I don’t think his friends care. He asked me about it before his first sleep over, we discussed how to handle it (put the pull up on when he went to the bathroom to change and you don’t have to tell anyone. Take it off in the morning and put it in the trash can) and he felt comfortable going so went.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

DS did not tell me that anyone called it a diaper. I doubt anyone said anything since 4 of the 5 kids at his first sleepover were wearing pull-ups. He did not say anything to his friends at their most recent sleep over. Perhaps he has friends who don't care or don't see the need to make fun of a friend for needing sleeping underwear?

It’s surprising how many kids wear them well into elementary school. I also have met parents who decide to just use regular diapers until their kids outgrow them.

I don’t know, maybe people are just open to discussing it now and realize it isn’t a big deal. Our Pediatrician was never worried about it so we never figured that we needed to be worried about it. I knew my nephews all were late to being dry at night and that their parents tried the night time bathroom trips and the alarms and they just didn’t work for them.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

DS did not tell me that anyone called it a diaper. I doubt anyone said anything since 4 of the 5 kids at his first sleepover were wearing pull-ups. He did not say anything to his friends at their most recent sleep over. Perhaps he has friends who don't care or don't see the need to make fun of a friend for needing sleeping underwear?

Did you host the sleepover or was it at someone else’s house? Was he at all surprised that so many other kids are in the same situation?

He has been to friends houses and we have had kids over here. He has never commented on it and I have not asked him about it. Honestly, I don’t think his friends care. He asked me about it before his first sleep over, we discussed how to handle it (put the pull up on when he went to the bathroom to change and you don’t have to tell anyone. Take it off in the morning and put it in the trash can) and he felt comfortable going so went.

Was there any specific ones that you bought or just whatever was on sale? Any of them work better than others?

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

No one calls pull ups diapers. What a bizarre question!

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

DS did not tell me that anyone called it a diaper. I doubt anyone said anything since 4 of the 5 kids at his first sleepover were wearing pull-ups. He did not say anything to his friends at their most recent sleep over. Perhaps he has friends who don't care or don't see the need to make fun of a friend for needing sleeping underwear?

Did you host the sleepover or was it at someone else’s house? Was he at all surprised that so many other kids are in the same situation?

He has been to friends houses and we have had kids over here. He has never commented on it and I have not asked him about it. Honestly, I don’t think his friends care. He asked me about it before his first sleep over, we discussed how to handle it (put the pull up on when he went to the bathroom to change and you don’t have to tell anyone. Take it off in the morning and put it in the trash can) and he felt comfortable going so went.

Was there any specific ones that you bought or just whatever was on sale? Any of them work better than others?

We used Pull Ups until he outgrew them and then Good Nights. They were easy to find so that is what we used.

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

No one calls pull ups diapers. What a bizarre question!

A kid making fun of another kid or teasing a kid might call it a diaper because kids can be mean.

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Speak your words Op. You have told us, now tell them

[Anonymous]

I hear you OP - my 10 yr old is best friends with a twin and sleeps over at her house all the time (like probably 3-4 nights a month). Our kids used to share a room (and even a bed!). We moved last year to a new apartment, where the kids have their own rooms and we could host a sleepover, but our 5 yr old tends to not give the girls space and it’s a lot of wrangling. I’m good friends with the parents and when I did ask the mom one week of I could reverse the invitation she said her daughter doesn’t sleep well away from home and, in particular, she thought it would be harder if my 5 yr old was wild / excited. Also, I think (since the sibling often invites a friend whose family I also know well) the four 9/10 yr olds really like being together for a movie or Minecraft or whatever game. I’m surprised by all the responses saying to let kids sleep downstairs or in a family room as if everyone has those options. Our (single story) apartment has a living room with no door to the kitchen or dining room. Other than that fairly open room there is then a bathroom and the three bedrooms. If kids slept in the living room we’d have to be in our bedroom starting at 8:45 or so.

To the pp who asked about sleepovers if kids wet themselves, I worried about that with my older daughter as she was approaching sleepover age and not making it through the night. The pediatrician said there was a medication she could prescribe for occasional use (like sleepovers) that would keep her dry. It ended up being a non issue (pandemic delayed sleepover start and she really only sleeps over with the one friend who I don’t think would have teased her anyway.)

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

Yes, they threw them away in the bathroom. No one cared. I remember my child's first sleep over, he was 8, I was worried about the pull up situation. He was in no way dry every night, maybe half the time. I talked with the Mom to see how she felt about it and the Mom told me that 1) her kid was not always dry through the night and 2) several of the other parents has asked. It turned out that all of the kids still had nights were they had accidents.

DS is dry through the night now and we don't ask the parents and the parents don't tell us, we simply see the disposable underwear in the bathroom. No one cares. The kids change in private (bathroom or a closed bedroom) so no one sees them putting it on and they wear something over it. They take them off in private. It is not a big deal. DS is 10 now and has some friends who are 11.

I’m sure the pull-ups have to be somewhat noticeable even underneath pajamas. Did your son care if anyone ever called it a diaper?

NP its the adults that notice these things. Maybe some girls too but boys in general are more interested in play and do not notice or care much about clothing choices. As long they have some shirt and pants/shorts they are good to go.

And they are putting on their jammies right before bed so it is probably not all that noticeable. They are not wearing them all night long. They take them off and throw them away in the morning. I would guess that it is more noticeable the following morning since the pul ups are in the trash can.

It is possible that lots of kids are not going to make fun of friends who need pull ups.

They definitely are noticeable, I think its just that kids don't care anymore.

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Other kids probably will notice the pull-ups but as others have said it’s not that big of a deal. Most important thing is that they keep the bed dry. We’ve actually found the regular Pampers do a better job. You can pretape them and kid can just put it on like underwear

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Anonymous wrote:Anyone ever have suggestions for handling sleepovers with kids who still have accidents at night?

DS wore a pull up to his first few sleep overs, as did a few of the other kids. He had friends over a few weeks back who used pull ups, they are 10. Some kids are late to being able to sleep dry. It is not a big deal. The kids changed quietly in the bathroom and threw away the used pull ups. No one said anything. But part of that is the kids being ok staying at a kids home wearing pull ups.

Did the boys all know about the pull-ups? It seems like kids these days are a lot more accepting of that. My son has a friend who wears them and he isn’t at all shy about it.

The mother of DD’s friend at that age let me know her DD would change into a pull up and gave me the heads up in case I wanted to put something down on the bed. That also meant I could encourage everyone to take turns getting ready so the friend could change alone and no one else saw.

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For kids using pull-ups at night do they ever wake up during the night to change or do they sleep through the night?