Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Just ask questions. Are you two romantically involved. Exclusive? Why or why not? What makes this relationship great for you? . Then Get your concerns out there for her consideration in a nonjudgmental way by using I statements and asking her opinion. When I was in college, I found. . . Do you think things have changed?
Op here. Thank you for this. I feel like my son has been pretty open with me and I don't want to ruin that. I also realize I don't have any real control over what he does, but I have my concerns.
He has been somewhat vague about how they met and what he does and as I have said I'm not even 100% sure if they are dating.
At the end of the day I want him to be safe and happy and not do anything to jeopardize his future.
And maybe it's no big deal and this guy is great. I don't know.
But I like this approach
I’m a 45 year old gay man. I’ll give you my 2 cents.
First, I wouldn’t say anything. I do think 18 and 24 is abnormal. I think the 24 year old has issues that he would date someone that much younger. If the relationship lasted I think your son will eventually get dumped when the then 25 year old wants someone younger. Alternatively the 24 year old is very immature and the relationship will likely be ended by your son when your son outgrows him.
But I also think it is learning experience for your son. I don’t think he is in danger in any way and I think he is mature enough to handle it at 18. It will be a good lesson for him.
Your son is vague on how they met because they met on an app, probably a hook up app. You don’t want those details and he isn’t volunteering them.
Let this putter out. You can comment on it when he is 30.
As for the random poster regarding prep. I’m sure he is in it already (maybe has been for years). This does not need to be said to a gay 18 year old by their parent. It will just come across as out of touch.
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