Inappropriate conversations at school - how to handle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP how does your 8 year old know what sexual noises sound like? I am not a prude and my kids got that talk early, etc... But you said she's 8 so that is odd. What you wrote sounds more like she had no idea what the noises were and you put words in her mouth.

Also, she needs to name names. My guess is this is one kid and. the others are just followers.

And please do not go to the principal. What would they know they are not in the classroom?

Ask the teacher, just drop them an email and ask point blank all the items you listed here. I am sure they will respond appropriately.

It is important you get to the bottom of this. If things are not great with a few boys then yes it needs to be addressed, and on the other side why does your child feel they need to report back to you other kids' behaviors? And why is this all about sex at 8 years old?

TF? She’s uncomfortable because these kids are introducing sex into her 2nd or 3rd grade class.

OP’s daughter is reporting it to her mom because that is what she is supposed to do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP how does your 8 year old know what sexual noises sound like? I am not a prude and my kids got that talk early, etc... But you said she's 8 so that is odd. What you wrote sounds more like she had no idea what the noises were and you put words in her mouth.

Also, she needs to name names. My guess is this is one kid and. the others are just followers.

And please do not go to the principal. What would they know they are not in the classroom?

Ask the teacher, just drop them an email and ask point blank all the items you listed here. I am sure they will respond appropriately.

It is important you get to the bottom of this. If things are not great with a few boys then yes it needs to be addressed, and on the other side why does your child feel they need to report back to you other kids' behaviors? And why is this all about sex at 8 years old?

You are a creep and a total lunatic. It’s a GOOD THING that OP’s daughter can talk to her, and that she has the social wherewithal to CORRECTLY identify that these nasty jerk boys are trying to direct negative behavior to girls because all the #boymoms can lie and pretend they and their miscreants are special, but that is PRECISELY what’s happening here. NB: not all mothers of sons are boymoms of course.

I’m sorry, OP. What a gross situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP how does your 8 year old know what sexual noises sound like? I am not a prude and my kids got that talk early, etc... But you said she's 8 so that is odd. What you wrote sounds more like she had no idea what the noises were and you put words in her mouth.

Also, she needs to name names. My guess is this is one kid and. the others are just followers.

And please do not go to the principal. What would they know they are not in the classroom?

Ask the teacher, just drop them an email and ask point blank all the items you listed here. I am sure they will respond appropriately.

It is important you get to the bottom of this. If things are not great with a few boys then yes it needs to be addressed, and on the other side why does your child feel they need to report back to you other kids' behaviors? And why is this all about sex at 8 years old?

You are a creep and a total lunatic. It’s a GOOD THING that OP’s daughter can talk to her, and that she has the social wherewithal to CORRECTLY identify that these nasty jerk boys are trying to direct negative behavior to girls because all the #boymoms can lie and pretend they and their miscreants are special, but that is PRECISELY what’s happening here. NB: not all mothers of sons are boymoms of course.

I’m sorry, OP. What a gross situation.

Pot meet kettle

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP how does your 8 year old know what sexual noises sound like? I am not a prude and my kids got that talk early, etc... But you said she's 8 so that is odd. What you wrote sounds more like she had no idea what the noises were and you put words in her mouth.

Also, she needs to name names. My guess is this is one kid and. the others are just followers.

And please do not go to the principal. What would they know they are not in the classroom?

Ask the teacher, just drop them an email and ask point blank all the items you listed here. I am sure they will respond appropriately.

It is important you get to the bottom of this. If things are not great with a few boys then yes it needs to be addressed, and on the other side why does your child feel they need to report back to you other kids' behaviors? And why is this all about sex at 8 years old?

You are a creep and a total lunatic. It’s a GOOD THING that OP’s daughter can talk to her, and that she has the social wherewithal to CORRECTLY identify that these nasty jerk boys are trying to direct negative behavior to girls because all the #boymoms can lie and pretend they and their miscreants are special, but that is PRECISELY what’s happening here. NB: not all mothers of sons are boymoms of course.

I’m sorry, OP. What a gross situation.

Pot meet kettle

Your idiocy was already apparent but thank you for the additional clarification that you’re vile. Of course OP should report this, and you can go straight to hell with the idea that this little girl was wrong to tell her mom about her day at school.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What kind of school is this?

Public elementary school.

Also happening in Catholic elementary.

Not at my kids' Catholic school.

Not ours either. That wouldn’t fly at all.

Oh, thank goodness your Catholic schools are sooo intolerant of sexual abuse! Whew.

I mean, you all can’t possibly be serious with this judgment. Seriously, GTFO. This is an annoying TikTok-fueled thing (happening at my kids’ elementary, too), but you all chiming in about how it would never be tolerated at your Catholic schools borders on unconscionable.

[Anonymous]

This is what going to school in the DMV is, OP. It is what happens.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP how does your 8 year old know what sexual noises sound like? I am not a prude and my kids got that talk early, etc... But you said she's 8 so that is odd. What you wrote sounds more like she had no idea what the noises were and you put words in her mouth.

Also, she needs to name names. My guess is this is one kid and. the others are just followers.

And please do not go to the principal. What would they know they are not in the classroom?

Ask the teacher, just drop them an email and ask point blank all the items you listed here. I am sure they will respond appropriately.

It is important you get to the bottom of this. If things are not great with a few boys then yes it needs to be addressed, and on the other side why does your child feel they need to report back to you other kids' behaviors? And why is this all about sex at 8 years old?

You are a creep and a total lunatic. It’s a GOOD THING that OP’s daughter can talk to her, and that she has the social wherewithal to CORRECTLY identify that these nasty jerk boys are trying to direct negative behavior to girls because all the #boymoms can lie and pretend they and their miscreants are special, but that is PRECISELY what’s happening here. NB: not all mothers of sons are boymoms of course.

I’m sorry, OP. What a gross situation.

Pot meet kettle

Your idiocy was already apparent but thank you for the additional clarification that you’re vile. Of course OP should report this, and you can go straight to hell with the idea that this little girl was wrong to tell her mom about her day at school.

I’m not the PP you were originally responding to. But ok.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is what going to school in the DMV is, OP. It is what happens.

Sure. Totally reasonable for the girls to be called ‘strippers’ multiple times in the classroom by brat boys at age 8. How dare OP’s child even tell her this, doesn’t she know she’s supposed to play cool, and not make her mom be all like, uncool, by know about this? Definitely don’t tell anyone, let the girls develop a necessary thick skin and dismiss bad behavior as nature’s way of determining who might, fingers crossed, grow up to be like really cool.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My kids do the moaning thing too. They have no idea what it “means”-they just think it’s funny. I think it comes from Tik-Tok which they don’t have access to, but makes its way to my kids via kids at school. Mine are 8 and 10. I try not to react but it sure grates on my nerves!

My kid started doing this too (he has no idea what it means) when boys did it at school. We told him to stop right away, and called it an „ugly sound“ (which is also chewing with your mouth open, pretending to fart, high-pitched screaming, etc.). He stopped.

A parent that actually parents. How refreshing. Thank you pp.

[Anonymous]

I would contact the classroom teacher and principal. This seems like a hostile classroom environment and needs to be addressed.

[Anonymous]

Here's a chatboard of teachers complaining about it.
Illinois, Oklahoma, Georgia, Texas, California.... Not just a DMV or a public school thing:
https://www.fishbowlapp.com/post/do-any-of-your-kids-make-these-moaning-noises-in-class-mine-do-and-i-find-it-grossly-inappropriate-and-disrespectful-but

The link has some good ideas on how to handle.

I did talk to the teacher and principal when it was happening in my 4th graders class because it was mostly at recess and also accompanied with motions that were making my kid feel really uncomfortable. It was mostly at recess and the teacher was unaware but talked to the recess monitors who confirmed. The teacher then talked with the class and it sounded like the kids were shocked that stuff that happened at recess got back to the teacher. They're doing it less but it's still an uncomfortable environment.

TikTok and giving smart phones and Internet to young kids just stinks. I think many/most parents have no clue what their kids are seeing.

[Anonymous]

Out of the blue, my 3rd grade DS, proudly declared at Christmas dinner as we sat down with relatives, "I know how to moan!", and proceeded to make moaning noises. I WAS HORRIFIED. I just told him to stop immediately, and then afterwards, without going into detail of where in fact that noise comes from, just told him that it is inappropriate just like a bad word, and that he should not be doing that. He said he learned it from other kids in class. I'm glad? that it's not just his class or school. Though I figured it stemmed from YouTube or TikTok, I had no idea it was a challenge. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m sure the teacher has heard it and if there’s something she could do about it then she probably would have done that. I doubt she loves hearing little girls referred to as sex workers any more than you do.

Hi! Strippers aren't sex workers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s the moaning TikTok challenge.

I'm sure you're being sarcastic but I would not at all be a surprise if this was a thing and it's why my kids are not allowed to watch anything on TikTok.

[Anonymous]

I would talk to the teacher. Sounds pretty messed up.