Neighbors had a party and didn't invite us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When did you last invite these neighbors to your house?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You were very rude to point out that you weren’t invited.

Neighbor should not have mentioned she had a lot of recycling from party since other neighbor has been invited in the past and not this time.
Should have just not mentioned it.

Why? Because you think she should feel guilty for not inviting a neighbor? I bet the neighbor always goes when invited, but never hosts. She probably brings a $10 bottle of wine too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wish our neighbors stop inviting us to the block parties, white elephant, lady's night. They all drink like fish. It's usually initiated by one queen bee and it's just an excuse to get soused.

Then say no. They won’t care if you don’t come if you don’t drink.

[Anonymous]

I would not invite you either. You sound like a whiny snoop.

[Anonymous]

I’ve learned that I can only handle about 12 for an indoor party and maybe 18 for an outdoor Bbq. Beyond that I get totally overwhelmed. So I’m selective, think about which friends are likely to enjoy one another, and don’t always include my neighbors. It’s not personal (and in the course of a year, everyone gets an invite to something.)

[Anonymous]

From your wording, it sounds like you have been invited in years past, but not this year. It’s not crazy to wonder what has changed.

[Anonymous]

I had a luncheon with ladies in my neighborhood and I did not invite my neighbor across the street

I still feel bad about it but know it was a good decision. The neighbor I am referring to is very loud and constantly talks about herself. She sucks all the energy out of the room. It is exhausting to be around her.

If you are being excluded maybe the universe is telling you something. There are so many times I want to tell someone to READ THE ROOM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When did you last invite these neighbors to your house?

+1

Agreed. You could be my neighbor. We have a super bowl party every year (among other things, but that's what's coming up) and they won't be invited. Quite frankly, I'm tired of always inviting them to our house, and in 5 years we've been invited to their house exactly zero times. Time to drop that invitation.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't think much of it. I find it expensive and stressful to host. I like my neighbors, but there is only one I would consider close enough to invite to a party at my home. Two years ago, the neighbor I was closest to was a different person. She is perfectly nice and has done nothing wrong, but as our kids grew apart, I had less to talk about with her. It's not a personal insult.

[Anonymous]

Did you see all of your other neighbors go in and out of their house? If not, I would assume it was a friend/family/colleague party and think nothing of it.

[Anonymous]

Sorry. That can sting. We had neighbors who we assumed considered us b-list friends. We too invited them sometimes but not others. It's just part of being neighbors and being able to see what is going on next door.

[Anonymous]

Op, your neighbor's rudeness (extreme rudeness) was her mentioning the party, not that she didn't invite you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They have an annual Christmas party, we saw tons of cars outside their house this year and clearly we weren't invited. Then I ran into my neighbor on the sidewalk taking our her recycling and she mentioned how much recycling she had from the party. so I teasingly said I guess we didn't make the list this year! -- we have a joking rapport -- and she said "Oh yes we were just trying to keep it small."

Well it wasn't small and I wonder what we did to get cut from the list? I just feel weird about it and like I did something wrong?

You have an answer. She is not your friend.

[Anonymous]

Our neighbors do this rude thing: They live up the street. They decide THEY are holding their party in the cut de sac. They don't live on the cul de sac. They issue invitations, inviting neighbors but of those who live on the cul de sac, they invite all except exclude just a few. For no known reason. Bothers me even more because it looks like we're the rude ones. Table and chairs near our driveway.

[Anonymous]

I love my neighbors but most of the gatherings we host are specific groups, like all families at the kids' school or my book club or college friends or boy scout troop. It's been a while since we had a massive "everyone we know and like" kind of party.

Your post made me realize that I should probably say something like "boy scouts and their families are coming over in Friday night" so they don't feel excluded.