Is 5 weeks out too early to send a birthday invitation?

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Anonymous wrote:You most likely won't get a ton of responses 5 weeks out. I know I would sit on that invite for 2-3 weeks while I waited to see what else might pop up. Unless you were one of my DD's best friends, then I'd do what we could to attend.

We just got a B list invite (it was only 3 days before the event) but my kid was excited to go, and we were free, so we're going.

Really? I would RSVP yes if we could attend. It's a child's birthday party. It's kind of gross to me that you would wait to see if something better popped up before RSVPing yes if you have availability when you get the invite.

+1,000

You people are teaching your children to be rude, which I guess isn't surprising.

[Anonymous]

I just did this using Evite because my DC birthday. I set it for a 3 week and 1 week reminders. So far I have 8 Yes and 4 No's out of 23. The goal really was to be able to invite dance friends two weeks out to replace the school friends that couldn't attend. Now I realize there are people who aven't ever opened it. People just don't RSVP.

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Just popping in to say it was nice not to have these same old discussions during covid.

It’s always “we are a SPORTS family and I won’t have my child miss any sports commitment for a party” vs “we are a SOCIAL family and I want to invite many many groups of people” vs “we are PLANNERS and need a lot of notice to be able to come” vs “we like to be SPONTANEOUS and decide last minute which offer sounds best.” The priorities will continue to clash. Just do whatever you want. Someone will always be annoyed/shocked but most will roll with it.

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Anonymous wrote:You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment.

March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding!

Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance?

Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway.

How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends.

What?!? No. It says “I just booked this and want to send the evite before I forget.” Stop looking for ways to label others “tacky.” That’s tacky. (See what I did there?)

I daresay it says "my kid would love if your kid could come to their party and since we are all up to our eyeballs in sports practices and swim meets and piano lessons and other sibling activities, we thought it would be courteous to provide advance notice so you can put it on your calendar and make arrangements to move things around if needed." I don't think that's tacky at all. In fact, I think the opposite - I can't stand when we get a party invitation for a party in a week, or even two weeks, because to me that says "my kid should be more important than anything you already have planned so drop everything and come to this party." We are busy. Everyone is busy. So giving people the courtesy of a little notice is the complete opposite of tacky.

Yeah no, no one is going to rearrange their schedule for your kid's birthday party. If we happen to be free that day, sure, my kid will go. Unless it is a good friend, kid bday parties are not priority for other people's families.

PP you're responding to. I will absolutely rearrange schedules for my kid to attend a close friend's party. I appreciate extra notice in order to be able to do so.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just did this using Evite because my DC birthday. I set it for a 3 week and 1 week reminders. So far I have 8 Yes and 4 No's out of 23. The goal really was to be able to invite dance friends two weeks out to replace the school friends that couldn't attend. Now I realize there are people who aven't ever opened it. People just don't RSVP.

I just sent an invitation out 4.5 weeks in advance and half the class RSVP’d right away. I think we are the first all class party of the year. I know my child has only been invited to 2 classmates (one in November and one in February). Both parties only invited a handful of kids from class.