Is 5 weeks out too early to send a birthday invitation?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment.

March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding!

Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance?

Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway.

How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends.

What?!? No. It says “I just booked this and want to send the evite before I forget.” Stop looking for ways to label others “tacky.” That’s tacky. (See what I did there?)

[Anonymous]

You can send it, but there's a good chance that people don't respond right away because it's too far out, and then they forget about it. Be sure to send a reminder.

[Anonymous]

Send it when you want, but don’t nag me about not responding every week - especially if you have an ‘rsvp by’ date in the invite. So annoying

[Anonymous]

I got an invite last night for a party tonight. Fine but needed to say "no gifts please!"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I got an invite last night for a party tonight. Fine but needed to say "no gifts please!"

Was it just a last minute party or a b List invite bc someone cancelled?

I could see planning last minute weekend but the day of???

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got an invite last night for a party tonight. Fine but needed to say "no gifts please!"

Was it just a last minute party or a b List invite bc someone cancelled?

I could see planning last minute weekend but the day of???

No idea. The whole class is invited, but it's not someone my child is close with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment.

March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding!

Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance?

Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway.

How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends.

What?!? No. It says “I just booked this and want to send the evite before I forget.” Stop looking for ways to label others “tacky.” That’s tacky. (See what I did there?)

I daresay it says "my kid would love if your kid could come to their party and since we are all up to our eyeballs in sports practices and swim meets and piano lessons and other sibling activities, we thought it would be courteous to provide advance notice so you can put it on your calendar and make arrangements to move things around if needed." I don't think that's tacky at all. In fact, I think the opposite - I can't stand when we get a party invitation for a party in a week, or even two weeks, because to me that says "my kid should be more important than anything you already have planned so drop everything and come to this party." We are busy. Everyone is busy. So giving people the courtesy of a little notice is the complete opposite of tacky.

[Anonymous]

Unless it was a best friend, I’d ignore the invitation and respond within a few days of the rsvp date

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. the sooner the better. It gives people time.

+1 love when I get 5/6 weeks notice. At least 4 please

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment.

March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding!

Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance?

Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway.

How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends.

What?!? No. It says “I just booked this and want to send the evite before I forget.” Stop looking for ways to label others “tacky.” That’s tacky. (See what I did there?)

I daresay it says "my kid would love if your kid could come to their party and since we are all up to our eyeballs in sports practices and swim meets and piano lessons and other sibling activities, we thought it would be courteous to provide advance notice so you can put it on your calendar and make arrangements to move things around if needed." I don't think that's tacky at all. In fact, I think the opposite - I can't stand when we get a party invitation for a party in a week, or even two weeks, because to me that says "my kid should be more important than anything you already have planned so drop everything and come to this party." We are busy. Everyone is busy. So giving people the courtesy of a little notice is the complete opposite of tacky.

Not helpful. It isn’t like sports tournaments and meets disappear on weekends of you send us your birthday invitation 5 weeks ahead. We are still obligated to go to sporting events and various things the kids have signed up for the year/season. Going to your birthday party means we likely have to cancel or skip on another obligation. Which is fine sometimes, but I don’t make that call immediately upon receiving your invitation unless it is closer to the actual event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment.

March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding!

Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance?

Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway.

How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends.

What?!? No. It says “I just booked this and want to send the evite before I forget.” Stop looking for ways to label others “tacky.” That’s tacky. (See what I did there?)

I daresay it says "my kid would love if your kid could come to their party and since we are all up to our eyeballs in sports practices and swim meets and piano lessons and other sibling activities, we thought it would be courteous to provide advance notice so you can put it on your calendar and make arrangements to move things around if needed." I don't think that's tacky at all. In fact, I think the opposite - I can't stand when we get a party invitation for a party in a week, or even two weeks, because to me that says "my kid should be more important than anything you already have planned so drop everything and come to this party." We are busy. Everyone is busy. So giving people the courtesy of a little notice is the complete opposite of tacky.

Yeah no, no one is going to rearrange their schedule for your kid's birthday party. If we happen to be free that day, sure, my kid will go. Unless it is a good friend, kid bday parties are not priority for other people's families.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment.

March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding!

Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance?

Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway.

How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends.

What?!? No. It says “I just booked this and want to send the evite before I forget.” Stop looking for ways to label others “tacky.” That’s tacky. (See what I did there?)

I daresay it says "my kid would love if your kid could come to their party and since we are all up to our eyeballs in sports practices and swim meets and piano lessons and other sibling activities, we thought it would be courteous to provide advance notice so you can put it on your calendar and make arrangements to move things around if needed." I don't think that's tacky at all. In fact, I think the opposite - I can't stand when we get a party invitation for a party in a week, or even two weeks, because to me that says "my kid should be more important than anything you already have planned so drop everything and come to this party." We are busy. Everyone is busy. So giving people the courtesy of a little notice is the complete opposite of tacky.

Yeah no, no one is going to rearrange their schedule for your kid's birthday party. If we happen to be free that day, sure, my kid will go. Unless it is a good friend, kid bday parties are not priority for other people's families.

Not PP but I like to know ahead of time too. I may not cancel a sports game but I also won't proactively make plans that conflict with the party, especially if it's a friend my child is close to or a party they would want to go to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I got an invite last night for a party tonight. Fine but needed to say "no gifts please!"

Was it just a last minute party or a b List invite bc someone cancelled?

I could see planning last minute weekend but the day of???

No idea. The whole class is invited, but it's not someone my child is close with.

I would assume that you were supposed to be invited but inadvertently got left off. They realized at the last minute and included you.

[Anonymous]

Eh, we just got one for mid April for a sibling's kid so I would say no. This one is a destination birthday though so I get it.

[Anonymous]

I think for 5 weeks out from this week you are okay, because it is within the current sports season and most people have their schedules. I wouldn't be able to respond to an invitation for March because that is spring season for sports and we don't have that schedule yet.