Is 5 weeks out too early to send a birthday invitation?
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Anonymous
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My daughter’s birthday is in a month and we just booked her birthday party. We have limited space and would like to include a few family friends if people RSVP no. They are not really a B list. They are more my A list but I wanted to invite the kids in class first.
Is 5 weeks too early to send out an invitation? |
Anonymous
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You most likely won't get a ton of responses 5 weeks out. I know I would sit on that invite for 2-3 weeks while I waited to see what else might pop up. Unless you were one of my DD's best friends, then I'd do what we could to attend.
We just got a B list invite (it was only 3 days before the event) but my kid was excited to go, and we were free, so we're going. |
Anonymous
| No. the sooner the better. It gives people time. |
Anonymous
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OP here. We are having the party at a party place that can accommodate a lot of people but the party room is for 24 kids max.
Would you just invite everyone knowing some people will not come? My child has 20 kids in her class. 3 of the kids are twins with twins in other classes. I am also inviting 2 other kids from school so not really any space for out of school friends. DH thinks we should just have a school party and not invite our personal friends. |
Anonymous
| I think it’s fine. You might not get a ton of responses right away though. But it gives people time to plan and move stuff around if needed if their kid really wants to attend. |
Anonymous
| Wait one more week and then send it. I would invite only the class at this point. Then invite extras later, if need be. |
Anonymous
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It's a little early, I would say 2-3 weeks ahead of the party is best.
But it's not offensive unless you start pinging people for RSVPs way ahead of time. It's a kids party, not a wedding, so whatever you do just be low key about it. |
Anonymous
| You can invite now. I have two invites for March at the moment. |
Anonymous
March?!?! This is a kid birthday party, not a wedding! Who sends a birthday party invitation two months in advance? |
Anonymous
Yeah. That's tacky. It says. :My child is very important and I am sending this way in advance to ensure that none of you miss my child's very important birthday party." A text to the 1-3 best friends 5 weeks out, sure! I do that before I book. But to 22 friends? No. And if the idea is to get some RSVPs early, that is unlikely to happen anyway. How old is your kid. At some point, birthday parties should not be about your family frieds but just the kid's friends. |
Anonymous
My daughter is turning 6. Last year, we had a class party for her preschool class and then we invited our friends over for Super Bowl and birthday cake. Super Bowl is later this year and Dh doesn’t want to have 2 parties. We were trying to be Covid safe last year and isolate the class since they were in class together already. |
Anonymous
Really? I would RSVP yes if we could attend. It's a child's birthday party. It's kind of gross to me that you would wait to see if something better popped up before RSVPing yes if you have availability when you get the invite. |
Anonymous
Where I live it's normal to send the invite 7-8 weeks early. 5 weeks would be late. |
Anonymous
Where do you live and how old are your kids? I think the only one I would do that far in advance is a first birthday where out of town guests and adult friends would be invited. |
Anonymous
| Fine to send it early, but I probably wouldn't respond for a week or two. Make sure to send a reminder 2-3 weeks before the date so parents who don't plan their weekends months in advance remember to RSVP. |