Why is MIL so dismissive of things relating to me?

[Anonymous]

Op, these things that are such a big part of your identity - your MIL is tired of hearing about it.

[Anonymous]

I get where OP is coming from. I see my step mom 4 times a year and could tell you all about her career, family and how she takes her coffee. I know her favorite wine. I do think your MIL is other truly does not care or is messing with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, are you White?

Wut?

Person belonging to mainstream majority culture and race?

[Anonymous]

Ha. My MIL doesn’t care about my job or interests. She’ll occasionally ask how work is going but changes the subject almost immediately as I’m responding to her. And my outside interests don’t interest her that much either, except when other people find it interesting I guess.

[Anonymous]

I've been married for 16 years and my MIL doesn't seem to remember anything about me, either. Every time I see her she asks me if I have any siblings, and what they do for a living. She will also ask how my parents are doing and once laughed out loud when I told her my dad had knee surgery. I am not sure what's wrong with her, but she's clearly not dealing with a full deck. I used to see her more often but now I limit my contact to once every other year.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Maybe you are forgettable?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I get where OP is coming from. I see my step mom 4 times a year and could tell you all about her career, family and how she takes her coffee. I know her favorite wine. I do think your MIL is other truly does not care or is messing with you.

I get it too. I think people are just off work and in rare for today.

[Anonymous]

Another DCUM thread full of a$$holes.

[Anonymous]

I understand why OP is annoyed at her MIL. I would be annoyed too.

I am going to report this thread to Jeff as I bet this is a lot of sock puppeting going on. So tired of ALL OPs being attacked. Gotta be a handful or less of the same posters.

[Anonymous]

It's a real MIL/Mother soapbox derby up in here today !

[Anonymous]

OMG, where is the crazy lady who always talks about the "drama llamas" on DCUM? I think she and I might actually agree this time. Lol.

[Anonymous]

Ignore all the a$$holes here, OP.
Your MIL sounds very self-absorbed. Stop expecting anything for her and also don’t go out of your way for her.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Go full dementia-concern.

“Really, Carole? You don’t have any memory of me bringing this very cocktail for six years in a row? If this was the first time you forgot, it wouldn’t concern me, but you literally forget every year. I think it’s time you talked to your doctor about this persistent memory loss, don’t you?”

“Really, Carole? You don’t remember that I drove the Oscar-Meyer Weinermobile? We’ve talked about it several times over the years. Wow, this and not remembering the cocktail—I’m going to have to look for a number of a good gerontologist for you. Unless any of this is suddenly starting to ring a bell?” Pointed look.

Yes! Do this!

And report back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore all the a$$holes here, OP.
Your MIL sounds very self-absorbed. Stop expecting anything for her and also don’t go out of your way for her.

+1 my MIL is like this and this is my attitude.
My family and ILs don't get together often but recently even my most laid back sibling commented about how MIL constantly talked over them and didn't seem interested in listening to anything they had to say. Petty of me but can't say it didn't feel good to have my feelings validated.