We took down our Christmas Cards today

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - literally all I did was go to CVS website one night and used a coupon did card layout and paid and they were ready the next day. So it is Not hard, older relatives wrote notes some cards that took time. But basic cards easy.

What do people do with cards they get who don’t send out cards? Do they toss them same day, hang then up?

Today as taking then down the one card that my aunt did with her children and grandchildren in photo I texted her to tell her how much I appreciated her card. I decided the fee I get even though I sent out cards to them I will thank them for the card and tell them how much appreciated.

I guess people don’t realize how much it hurts to find a friend or relative decide you have no value to then anymore at Xmas time. I hope it is they are lazy and not just mean. But I will never know. We had around 15-25 - 30 year plus Xmas card people just not send. We mailed December 8 our cards.

I'm not lazy and definitely not mean. I just prefer not to do it. 1) I don't have good recent pictures of our family 2) things have been hard and it would feel forced to play perfect family just for show 3) I don't have people's mailing addresses, 4) Two working parents at this time of the year just don't have bandwidth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - literally all I did was go to CVS website one night and used a coupon did card layout and paid and they were ready the next day. So it is Not hard, older relatives wrote notes some cards that took time. But basic cards easy.

What do people do with cards they get who don’t send out cards? Do they toss them same day, hang then up?

Today as taking then down the one card that my aunt did with her children and grandchildren in photo I texted her to tell her how much I appreciated her card. I decided the fee I get even though I sent out cards to them I will thank them for the card and tell them how much appreciated.

I guess people don’t realize how much it hurts to find a friend or relative decide you have no value to then anymore at Xmas time. I hope it is they are lazy and not just mean. But I will never know. We had around 15-25 - 30 year plus Xmas card people just not send. We mailed December 8 our cards.

Wow. I really hope you’re a troll imitating someone. If you are indeed serious, I think you need to reevaluate why you put so much emphasis on Christmas cards. Most people do not.

[Anonymous]

OP: if you’re sending cards only because you want to receive cards back, I think it’s best you stop sending them for sure. Like all gifts, it’s not meant to be transactional. If you enjoy reaching out to folks, send cards or write letters (I do the latter so my card list is quite short) and do it for the joy of the thing not because you’re anxiously waiting for a reply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - literally all I did was go to CVS website one night and used a coupon did card layout and paid and they were ready the next day. So it is Not hard, older relatives wrote notes some cards that took time. But basic cards easy.

What do people do with cards they get who don’t send out cards? Do they toss them same day, hang then up?

Today as taking then down the one card that my aunt did with her children and grandchildren in photo I texted her to tell her how much I appreciated her card. I decided the fee I get even though I sent out cards to them I will thank them for the card and tell them how much appreciated.

I guess people don’t realize how much it hurts to find a friend or relative decide you have no value to then anymore at Xmas time. I hope it is they are lazy and not just mean. But I will never know. We had around 15-25 - 30 year plus Xmas card people just not send. We mailed December 8 our cards.

Hi OP! I also spent $18 on cards at CVS - I'm putting them in the mail tomorrow! I have two little kids, a full time job, and I lead a Girl Scout troop. Life is busy, sometimes things take a while. Y'all are actually lucky this year, last year I sent New Year's cards out the 2nd week of January!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - literally all I did was go to CVS website one night and used a coupon did card layout and paid and they were ready the next day. So it is Not hard, older relatives wrote notes some cards that took time. But basic cards easy.

What do people do with cards they get who don’t send out cards? Do they toss them same day, hang then up?

Today as taking then down the one card that my aunt did with her children and grandchildren in photo I texted her to tell her how much I appreciated her card. I decided the fee I get even though I sent out cards to them I will thank them for the card and tell them how much appreciated.

I guess people don’t realize how much it hurts to find a friend or relative decide you have no value to then anymore at Xmas time. I hope it is they are lazy and not just mean. But I will never know. We had around 15-25 - 30 year plus Xmas card people just not send. We mailed December 8 our cards.

OP, how old are you and are you single?

[Anonymous]

Well on the off chance it was mean of all those people to disregard you at Christmas, are you prepared to write them off for the rest of the year? I’m that case it’s probably going to be a lonely life for you!

For many it’s simply not economical. Printing and postage costs could be other gifts purchased or food for celebrating. Some people may have life or work issues that prevent them from sending cards. And then there are some who just don’t want to do that part of the tradition.

That said, I plan to stop sending to most of those who don’t send their own anymore. Not out of vindictiveness, but rather presuming they just don’t want to participate in that type of exchange. No biggie.

[Anonymous]

Holy drama queen, Batman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: if you’re sending cards only because you want to receive cards back, I think it’s best you stop sending them for sure. Like all gifts, it’s not meant to be transactional. If you enjoy reaching out to folks, send cards or write letters (I do the latter so my card list is quite short) and do it for the joy of the thing not because you’re anxiously waiting for a reply.

+1 I used to reuse the same spreadsheet year after year. After I relocated across the country, I started making a Facebook post in November asking who would like a Christmas card. The response was more than I expected. It’s been 4 years and there are a few people who respond every year and always thank me for the card. It’s a little spot of happiness in a season that can be difficult. I don’t expect anything in return, but do appreciate it. I think next year will be the year I start being more discerning and only sending to people that I know appreciate the thought.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, OP. The nerve of me catching Covid for the first time a week and a half ago and thus getting a bit behind on our Christmas cards. But never fear! As I recovered, I banged them out as I was able, and they should arrive in our friends’ mailboxes this week - which will not include the likes of you, as our friends are much less high maintenance!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - literally all I did was go to CVS website one night and used a coupon did card layout and paid and they were ready the next day. So it is Not hard, older relatives wrote notes some cards that took time. But basic cards easy.

What do people do with cards they get who don’t send out cards? Do they toss them same day, hang then up?

Today as taking then down the one card that my aunt did with her children and grandchildren in photo I texted her to tell her how much I appreciated her card. I decided the fee I get even though I sent out cards to them I will thank them for the card and tell them how much appreciated.

I guess people don’t realize how much it hurts to find a friend or relative decide you have no value to then anymore at Xmas time. I hope it is they are lazy and not just mean. But I will never know. We had around 15-25 - 30 year plus Xmas card people just not send. We mailed December 8 our cards.

[Anonymous]

Troll!

[Anonymous]

Ours haven't gone out yet 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Cards are the least important holiday tradition on my list and, thus, I haven’t sent one out in decades. That said, I do enjoy receiving the ones we get and will thank the giver the next time I talk or see them. No one wants to hurt your feelings so you need to stop sending them if you are saddened by the lack of reciprocation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Holy drama queen, Batman

I can't imagine going through life this sensitive and easily thrown off kilter due to some meaningless BS, just looking to feel slighted.

[Anonymous]

Easier said than done OP -

But try not to define your value in life based on the No.# of Christmas cards that you receive.

If these people reach out to you on a regular basis > then it speaks volumes vs. one annual holiday card.

I am sorry you are feeling so down this year.
Merry Christmas in six days and wishing you a joyous as well as prosperous New Year‼️🥳