Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

As opposed to living off someone else's paycheck for your whole life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you eating decently, taking a vitamin, drinking enough water? I think it gets easier as you develop routines and get on autopilot. But definitely try to simplify at home—takeout, etc—and try to set aside time for exercise or something energizing.

I'm trying, but the job is unpredictable. Today I couldn't go to the bathroom until lunch time. I had 20 minutes to get and eat lunch, so I didn't eat or drink as much as I would have liked to today. I'm trying to preload on water before work and drink more in the evenings.

Well, this is probably why you are so tired - sounds like you have a very demanding job. I’m sure you’ll adapt but it definitely sounds more exhausting than a typical office job. I’m guessing healthcare or education or maybe being in court or working in a factory….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

Ditto.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

This post is kind of jaw dropping to me.

She’s old so housing was cheap, lots of boomer moms never had to work.

[Anonymous]

Try liquid B-12 vitamins. It gives you an instant lift that lasts for hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you eating decently, taking a vitamin, drinking enough water? I think it gets easier as you develop routines and get on autopilot. But definitely try to simplify at home—takeout, etc—and try to set aside time for exercise or something energizing.

I'm trying, but the job is unpredictable. Today I couldn't go to the bathroom until lunch time. I had 20 minutes to get and eat lunch, so I didn't eat or drink as much as I would have liked to today. I'm trying to preload on water before work and drink more in the evenings.

Well, this is probably why you are so tired - sounds like you have a very demanding job. I’m sure you’ll adapt but it definitely sounds more exhausting than a typical office job. I’m guessing healthcare or education or maybe being in court or working in a factory….

It’s in education, but it kind of feels like working in a factory…

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How old are your kids?

Kindergarten. I have one kid, a dog and a husband and am tired! I can't imagine some of the families who have 3 kids, 2 dogs, a cat, and a lizard. Maybe part of it is my introversion. I need to be alone!

DP.. get rid of the dog if you are that tired. And get your DH to do more.

Do not get rid of the dog. Get more takeout food, hire a house cleaner, and go to bed earlier.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

I guess you're very fortunate that not everyone feels the way you do. Otherwise, no one would work.

I think most people feel like me but they work to pay the bills. I have super inexpensive tastes and thankfully I saved modest amount of money when I worked, and DH is also working. But, GOD, it is a drag to work!

+1. Working blows, I hate it but need to pay the bills. I wouldn't be ok with not working if my spouse still had to work and kids were out of the house.

[Anonymous]

Is it a new job? I remember being exhausted when starting new jobs even before having kids. So, hopefully it will be less exhausting once the job seems more familiar. The kid exhaustion does take awhile (says the woman whose 10 year old clogged the toilet at midnight last night and it was my turn to deal with middle of the night ridicousness).

[Anonymous]

I find starting any new job incredibly exhausting. You’re on guard, everything is new, you’re getting to know people, you’re learning things. I was unemployed for four months in 2021 and started my job in August of that year. I was SPENT for the first three months. Definitely not the case now. Hang in there!

[Anonymous]

Yeah….that’s kind of the life of a working mom, no advice because that’s just how it is.

[Anonymous]

Come and be a waitress with me. It's more like exercising for 5-6 hours.
I take a quick shower at home around 4 pm, put on my black cheap clothes, drive 10 minutes, hide my car from the ticketman, stroll in, check out the mess left by morning people, look for food, take out some plates and then I tell them I'm not mentally ready to work quite yet.
I also take a quick look into dining room to make sure there are no crazies eating today. If there are, I will go and hide somewhere. By 5:30 I will come out because others want to go home.Someone has probably transferred the crazies to me.
It's not that bad actually. First table is the hardest. The rest is more like exercise- walking back and forth non-stop for next 5 hours. No benefits other than food.
Working in an office or working while sitting down is just not for me.
I called myself SAHM who went to work after DH got home from his day time work. Not tiring at all. Being home alone with the kid from 6 am to 4-5 pm was the hard part.
Working from 5-6 to 11 pm was the easy relaxing part.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you eating decently, taking a vitamin, drinking enough water? I think it gets easier as you develop routines and get on autopilot. But definitely try to simplify at home—takeout, etc—and try to set aside time for exercise or something energizing.

I'm trying, but the job is unpredictable. Today I couldn't go to the bathroom until lunch time. I had 20 minutes to get and eat lunch, so I didn't eat or drink as much as I would have liked to today. I'm trying to preload on water before work and drink more in the evenings.

Well, this is probably why you are so tired - sounds like you have a very demanding job. I’m sure you’ll adapt but it definitely sounds more exhausting than a typical office job. I’m guessing healthcare or education or maybe being in court or working in a factory….

It’s in education, but it kind of feels like working in a factory…

In addition to what others mentioned to make things better, getting exercise is key as is preparing on the weekend to make the week easier. I was going to suggest a lunchtime walk but that doesn’t sound possible. But going to the gym in the morning or a half hour dog walk. And on the weekends, it does t take long to get meal stuff organized and prep clothes for the week. It won’t take long before you’re used to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you eating decently, taking a vitamin, drinking enough water? I think it gets easier as you develop routines and get on autopilot. But definitely try to simplify at home—takeout, etc—and try to set aside time for exercise or something energizing.

I'm trying, but the job is unpredictable. Today I couldn't go to the bathroom until lunch time. I had 20 minutes to get and eat lunch, so I didn't eat or drink as much as I would have liked to today. I'm trying to preload on water before work and drink more in the evenings.

Well, this is probably why you are so tired - sounds like you have a very demanding job. I’m sure you’ll adapt but it definitely sounds more exhausting than a typical office job. I’m guessing healthcare or education or maybe being in court or working in a factory….

It’s in education, but it kind of feels like working in a factory…

I am a very hard worker and I left the classroom after a year. You need an office job. They pay more and the work conditions are better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

This post is kind of jaw dropping to me.

She’s old so housing was cheap, lots of boomer moms never had to work.

Not a boomer. Just a regular Gen-Xer. But yes, bought a lovely spacious SFH with a huge yard that we could afford on one salary. This was around 26 years ago and at the bottom of the housing market. Interest rates were very high though - around 7%. Of course, we refinanced. Wonderful neighborhood, very convenient etc. We have meh public schools and a 1 hr commute for DH.

So, y'all are working for an expensive house? Like all your life you sit in a small cubicle to pay mortgage for a big house that neither you nor your kids spend much time in. That sounds dumb.