Just went back to work after SAH. Crushingly tired.

[Anonymous]

When does the exhaustion fade to normal levels of tiredness?

[Anonymous]

When the kids sleep through the night and able to generally take care of themselves.


My kids are now teens, and I sleep with ear plugs so I won't be disturbed. I couldn't do that when the kids were younger.

I used to always feel soo sleepy during the day. I don't have that problem anymore.

Drink more water, too. Hang in there.. it gets better.

[Anonymous]

Never. Once they are older you will be middle aged.

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids?

[Anonymous]

ha ha.. maybe now you will appreciate your husband more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Never. Once they are older you will be middle aged.

This. Can you quit ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never. Once they are older you will be middle aged.

This. Can you quit ?

dp.. I posted above. My kids are teens. I'm 52. I stopped being that tired when I was in my early 40s, basically once the kids didn't need me as much. It gets better. And you need to rely on your spouse more to share the load. Or outsource.

[Anonymous]

That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

[Anonymous]

How old are your kids? This is a tough time to transition back - it's cold, it's dark, scheduling is all off in December.

I think you have to focus on the basics until spring and then reassess how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is the reason I do not work. My kids are in college and I am at home. I hated working. Hated, hated, hated getting up in the morning. Heck, even in college I never took morning classes. I wanted to work because I thought working would be glamorous, fulfilling, life changing and interesting. Instead, it is like slow death. Each day you go to office to live your life under someone else's thumb. My DH works because he finds fulfillment at work. I have no issues. Biologically, societally, emotionally, physically, financially, I am ok not working.

I guess you're very fortunate that not everyone feels the way you do. Otherwise, no one would work.

[Anonymous]

I've always worked full time, but it's no joke with kids. They're 5 and 8 now and I'm not nodding off at my desk every day anymore. We still have stretches where I'm not sleeping well - either bc of the kids, DH, or just middle age - but overall it's better. BUT - you also have to outsource what you can, let go of things that you can, and get ok with saying no. If I've done my grocery pick up and the school sends out a sign up for a hot chocolate bar? Sorry, I can't jump in this time.

[Anonymous]

Work is hard OP.

[Anonymous]

It’s hard but you can do it! I went to bed earlier for a while.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When does the exhaustion fade to normal levels of tiredness?

I always worked (save fir mat leaves) my kids are 3 and 6. The obly thing that saves me is sleeping 9:30-7 every weekday.

[Anonymous]

Went back to work in my early 40s and was tired for over a year. Maybe 18 months. Was laid off due to covid and went back only part time. Took a significant financial hit but qualify of life is better.