How did you choose your egg donor?
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Anonymous
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I used an agency (rather than a bank or clinic) and a known donor (we have her name/current address and met her via video). More options than a clinic and provided more info about the donor (at least the one we chose) than a bank and enabled us to know the donor (which is rare in the US). UK and I think EU requires known/open donation. I'm sure agencies vary. The one we used is now tied to a clinic in LA, so I'm not sure it's the same. It seemed to be very considerate of the donor and there appeared to be a reasonable attempt to be sure the donors had really thought about what they're doing and a desire to do it for more than just money (I know that it's easy for people to lie and certainly money is a part of the motivation). We were able to request info and donor was able to refuse to provide any additional info or testing. We considered several seriously before making a final decision. They did allow donors to remain anonymous, but we used one who was known.
In terms of priorities, they were all the ones others have listed. Including blood type - not to hide it from DC, but type O (which is what we both are) does provide some cardiovascular health benefits, it's one more thing that is the same, and may provide privacy if DC doesn't want to disclose. It was a lower priority and ultimately we didn't have the same type (which did cause more severe jaundice and an early miserable, but short, hospital stay for UV treatment). |
Anonymous
Highly educated women donate eggs? Why? |
Anonymous
Why don’t you ask them? |
Anonymous
Women who aren’t desperate for money don’t donate eggs. |
Anonymous
I thought about it when I was in college. They were offering 60k+ for one cycle (I was at HYPS). It was a lot of money and would have been helpful for grad school too. Ultimately didn’t go through with it, but it’s an enticing offer. |
Anonymous
I had a friend who did this-she never wanted to have her own kids,from low income family but dads )distant)family were Ivy grads, 5 7,very fit, runner, blonde, light green eyes (not a good nose), got into top 10 law school....however-severe personality disorder, alcohol addiction and with an ivy league degree has never worked longer than 3-4 months due to "personality clash", financially supported by her GFs (str8looking lesbian).... wonder how her kids turned out... |
Anonymous
| You don't have to go down this path if you don't feel comfortable. Take time, meet with a counselor if you don't already have one. |
Anonymous
They don't pay 60K anymore. It's peanuts - 5K. Frankly, I don't think it's enough for the health risks alone. |
Anonymous
Maybe they wanted the money. |
Anonymous
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We did donor egg so long ago that there were only 500 in the whole US. The clinics treated the donors like angels. But there was very high demand and very few donors.
Doctors choose donors for me but nothing worked. Finally the doctor chose one with proven fertility, high intelligence, parents with long lives. Everything went smoothly. Our son looks very much like my cousin and his Dad. And lots and lots of other people of our ethnicity. Genetics is a strong force and half of my home state look like they could be related. |
Anonymous
I did it when I was a student (Ivy) to help pay rent. But also because I thought it would be a nice thing to do for a family. (And also because I had to pay the rent!). $60k is fake, no one makes that. I made $10k, this was 10 years ago. |
Anonymous
I don’t think it’s vain or silly to seek out someone like you. I mean, you literally just found out. The donor was supposed to be: you. Good luck on your search and hopefully a healthy normal pregnancy ! |
Anonymous
Our donor was a PhD student at the time |
Anonymous
Altruism. It is not about the money for most egg donors. |
Anonymous
+1 |