What makes a wedding registry tacky?

[Anonymous]

Registry isn’t tacky- it’s what people put in it that is. Yes to various price points. Stick to things needed by married couples. Omit obscenely expensive items or luxury honeymoon “add ons”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anything and everything. Seriously. You don't deserve presents just because you got married. You did nothing to earn them. It's not an accomplishment like getting a promotion or advanced degree.

You give gifts for a promotion or an advanced degree? Spending a few more years in school isn’t a great accomplishment either. Weddings are gift giving events. I like having an idea what the couple might like, but asking for cash or honeymoon fund is tacky.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

+1

Which is fune, if they have everything they need.

Exactly. I’m happy to give cash.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Registry isn’t tacky- it’s what people put in it that is. Yes to various price points. Stick to things needed by married couples. Omit obscenely expensive items or luxury honeymoon “add ons”

+1’and omit “cash grabs”

[Anonymous]

When they ask for money only or when it's their 2nd+ wedding and there's a registry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you are a thirty year old who already owns your own home, it’s tacky. It’s also greedy. Am I invited because you want to share your special day or because you need a set of dishes? Sell tickets if that’s the case.

1) An invitation is an invitation, not a summons. If you don't want to attend a wedding of a 30+ yo, don't attend.
2) You can also choose to ignore the registry and give whatever you like, or give nothing at all (it would be tacky to not at least give them a card, you can purchase those for <$5). Others though, would like a little guidance on what to get the couple and appreciate having a registry available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a “fund our honeymoon” thing, especially in addition to a full, traditional registry

+1! Yes!

[Anonymous]

Depends on you and your community. I am from a middle class background, and a middle class friend of mine had a $450 wine decanter on their list. I thought that was kind of gross. If there was a $450 something that would be normal for it to cost that much, then I get it, but it made me roll my eyes for sure. Put a few basic kitchen or bath things you might need (no decorations), and everyone else will just give you cash. I think registries will be dead soon.

[Anonymous]

Just have a range of prices, and keep an eye on it every so often so you can replenish if everything gets taken from a certain range. I think it's fine to do a mix of more fun and more serious things--older people are going to gravitate toward wanting to do something more "permanent" but that doesn't have to be china (if that isn't your thing).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

+1

Which is fune, if they have everything they need.

Exactly. I’m happy to give cash.

+1

Some people actually don't need more "stuff" - as great as you may think it is. But it for yourself!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depends on you and your community. I am from a middle class background, and a middle class friend of mine had a $450 wine decanter on their list. I thought that was kind of gross. If there was a $450 something that would be normal for it to cost that much, then I get it, but it made me roll my eyes for sure. Put a few basic kitchen or bath things you might need (no decorations), and everyone else will just give you cash. I think registries will be dead soon.

+1

Registries have been dead for some time.

[Anonymous]

Make sure there are all price points. But also, I hate to see cheap, crummy stuff on registries. Like dollar store spatulas. If I'm buying a gift, I want it to last for a few years.

I give registry gifts for showers, cash for weddings.

Also, all of you saying no gift cards- amazon and bed bath and beyond automatically put a gift card option at the top or bottom. It's not the couple putting it there.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

+1

Which is fune, if they have everything they need.

Exactly. I’m happy to give cash.

+1

Some people actually don't need more "stuff" - as great as you may think it is. But it for yourself! [/q uote]

If they don't need stuff, they don't need cash

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you are a thirty year old who already owns your own home, it’s tacky. It’s also greedy. Am I invited because you want to share your special day or because you need a set of dishes? Sell tickets if that’s the case.

1) An invitation is an invitation, not a summons. If you don't want to attend a wedding of a 30+ yo, don't attend.
2) You can also choose to ignore the registry and give whatever you like, or give nothing at all (it would be tacky to not at least give them a card, you can purchase those for <$5). Others though, would like a little guidance on what to get the couple and appreciate having a registry available.

+1

The bride and groom are well aware that they aren't going to please everyone.

If you hate weddings that much, or are jealous of the couple, whatever - stay home and do everyone a BIG favor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

+1

Which is fune, if they have everything they need.

Exactly. I’m happy to give cash.

+1

Some people actually don't need more "stuff" - as great as you may think it is. But it for yourself! [/q uote]

If they don't need stuff, they don't need cash

This makes no sense. Maybe they are saving for a house or whatever.

If you can't celebrate the new couple, stay home.