What makes a wedding registry tacky?

[Anonymous]

I'm making a registry and want to make sure it's appropriate. For example - is there a maximum number of gifts you should include? Is it distasteful to include things over a certain dollar amount?

[Anonymous]

The only thing I look sideways at is if there's not a range of price points. Like, the cheapest thing should not be $250.

But, that said, there are going to be people who respond that any registry is tacky, that asking for gifts is tacky, that asking this question is tacky, that your existence and love for each other is tacky. Just ask yourself how many of those kind of people you're inviting to your wedding and ignore accordingly.

[Anonymous]

I say include whatever you want - no one is forced to buy anything - and if anyone is "offended" by a price tag, they can either all go in together for a big group gift, or forego the gift all together.

No one should really care this much about what the bride and groom are doing or not doing.

[Anonymous]

I would say treating it like a Christmas/birthday wish list. For example: a couple I knew had an Xbox and a 3D printer on their registry. I didn’t think it was appropriate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The only thing I look sideways at is if there's not a range of price points. Like, the cheapest thing should not be $250.

But, that said, there are going to be people who respond that any registry is tacky, that asking for gifts is tacky, that asking this question is tacky, that your existence and love for each other is tacky. Just ask yourself how many of those kind of people you're inviting to your wedding and ignore accordingly.[/quote]

+1

And if those judgy people are the future IL's - RUN, don't walk.

[Anonymous]

When they have no registry and are basically asking for cash.

[Anonymous]

Anything that is ridiculously priced, like a $60 washcloth.

Or, ridiculous quantities of things, like 10 full sets of designer suitcases. Or 5 full sets of dinner plates (as in 60 place settings in 5 designs).

[Anonymous]

Having a “fund our honeymoon” thing, especially in addition to a full, traditional registry

[Anonymous]

Including your Venmo name for gifts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Having a “fund our honeymoon” thing, especially in addition to a full, traditional registry

Especially when they break it down to the specific honeymoon things...like "romantic luxury couples' massage in the cabana ($300)"

[Anonymous]

Anything and everything. Seriously. You don't deserve presents just because you got married. You did nothing to earn them. It's not an accomplishment like getting a promotion or advanced degree.

[Anonymous]

If you are a thirty year old who already owns your own home, it’s tacky. It’s also greedy. Am I invited because you want to share your special day or because you need a set of dishes? Sell tickets if that’s the case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Having a “fund our honeymoon” thing, especially in addition to a full, traditional registry

Especially when they break it down to the specific honeymoon things...like "romantic luxury couples' massage in the cabana ($300)"

+1 the following are tacky to ask for:

Straight cash or gift cards. Just don’t have a registry at all if this is your list.
Honeymoon activities/hotel nights
Not providing a lot of options under $100 (or even $50)

[Anonymous]

Existing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anything and everything. Seriously. You don't deserve presents just because you got married. You did nothing to earn them. It's not an accomplishment like getting a promotion or advanced degree.

But you are inviting people to an expensive party (even if it’s a budget wedding!) and it’s polite for guests to give a gift.
And of course, historically, you were getting married young and the community was helping you set up a household/family which contributed to the couples stability. Which in turn was good for the community.