A-hole neighbor broke my fence and refuses to pay to fix it

[Anonymous]

I mean a neighbor you don’t get along with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not asking to see his survey. Why should I? I asked him to pay for the damage his workers made to my property. It's my property even if his claim is true, which I doubt. I sent him and his wife a very polite request for repayment, and they both ignored it. They didn't reply that they didn't owe me anything, they simply didn't reply at all. That tells me that very likely, his claim that my fence is on his property is NOT true. Otherwise he would have said so in writing.

Ok, but if you're considering taking him to small claims court over $400, you really, really want to make sure it won't result in you having to move the entire fence at your expense.

And his wife is a lawyer? Stand down OP!

[Anonymous]

^^privacy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Super gross that you’ve mentioned multiple times that you think your neighbor is autistic as if your speculation is relevant at all to this issue. Team neighbor just for that.

I have an autistic child, as does my sister, so I know a little bit about autism.

Just because someone's autistic doesn't give him the freedom to be a total a-hole. His behavior reminds me of my kid's behavior at times. to be honest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Super gross that you’ve mentioned multiple times that you think your neighbor is autistic as if your speculation is relevant at all to this issue. Team neighbor just for that.

I have an autistic child, as does my sister, so I know a little bit about autism.

Just because someone's autistic doesn't give him the freedom to be a total a-hole. His behavior reminds me of my kid's behavior at times. to be honest.

Oh great, an #autismmom. You don’t know if he’s autistic and it’s gross to speculate on a stranger’s neurodivergence because you don’t like their behavior.

[Anonymous]

1. Check that the property boundaries!!!

2. Before paying for a repair on a fence that might not be on your property!!!

3. And if your survey indicates it's actually on your property, then tell the damm neighbor!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Super gross that you’ve mentioned multiple times that you think your neighbor is autistic as if your speculation is relevant at all to this issue. Team neighbor just for that.

+1

[Anonymous]

Stop saying he has HFA. You don’t know and I am so sick of people diagnosing others with this.

[Anonymous]

This is exactly how all those Fear Thy Neighbor episodes on Discovery ID begin.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
1. Check that the property boundaries!!!

2. Before paying for a repair on a fence that might not be on your property!!!

3. And if your survey indicates it's actually on your property, then tell the damm neighbor!!!

Also your neighbor did not damage the fence. It was company doing the work.

Is it actually your fence? Do you have anal compulsive tendencies? Why did you fix it so quick if plots so big?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Super gross that you’ve mentioned multiple times that you think your neighbor is autistic as if your speculation is relevant at all to this issue. Team neighbor just for that.

I have an autistic child, as does my sister, so I know a little bit about autism.

Just because someone's autistic doesn't give him the freedom to be a total a-hole. His behavior reminds me of my kid's behavior at times. to be honest.

OP is either fake or a horrible person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why would the neighbor plant trees/bushes when they have 6 acres right on this fence line. Makes no sense.

He's constantly landscaping his property. Our houses are quite close together, even though he has a lot of land. So I guess he wanted to shield his house from mine, even though there are already some trees that provide property. But I think he's just an a-hole who has a persecution complex.

I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar situation, and how you handled it.

Can you blame him for wanting privacy given how you treat him?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try getting your money back from the landscapers or just let it go

This

[Anonymous]

OP - you're in the wrong here. I have read and reread your post a few times to makes sure I understood the facts as you gave them.

You said he did a survey and found out the fence is on his property, not yours. You never disputed this in your post, instead you blamed his supposed "HFA" diagnosis for his a**hole behavior. I guess means you're a psychologist and he is a patient of yours?

Stop calling it "your fence" when it"s actually his.
Stop being an armchair psychologist and diagnosing him with HFA.

You are wrong, he is right. Could he have handled it better? maybe. but you came across quite bad yourself by sending him the bill which you incurred to fix his fence!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm not asking to see his survey. Why should I? I asked him to pay for the damage his workers made to my property. It's my property even if his claim is true, which I doubt. I sent him and his wife a very polite request for repayment, and they both ignored it. They didn't reply that they didn't owe me anything, they simply didn't reply at all. That tells me that very likely, his claim that my fence is on his property is NOT true. Otherwise he would have said so in writing.

If I were your neighbors, and the fence actually was on my property (or even if it wasn't), I wouldn't engage in a back-and-forth with you. They already told you they're not paying. I have no idea whether you can take him to small claims court or not, but even if you do "win", will you have really won? You will have missed a day of work, you neighbors are now your enemies (they probably are anyway, given your behavior), and everyone in the neighborhood will know what a jerk you are. Your DH is right - let it go.