Concerned about older dad’s relationship with much younger woman

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your dad and this woman are probably sleeping together. He knows this is temporary so that’s good. He is enhoying this relationship. Taking care of his health and sleep is code for sit home and be always available to me. Funny how you aren’t phased by his working full time. You seem naive if you really thought a woman would move in and cook healthy dinners for a man more than twice her age and not expect something. How you made it to adulthood is beyond me. I would stay out of it. You have no right to your dads anything but you are also not obligated to do anything for him either. I would be more comfortable with this woman living with your dad than him paying for her to live elsewhere. At least she is there and he won’t be left on the floor for hours or days at least he is eating on the regular however the food gets there. At least he is enjoying himself

*fazed

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You mind your own business. You're concerned because they sometimes go out to eat or go on trips? Why is that an issue? He's enjoying the last years of his life. He doesn't owe you all his free time.

Hello young woman who exploits old men.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mind your own business. You're concerned because they sometimes go out to eat or go on trips? Why is that an issue? He's enjoying the last years of his life. He doesn't owe you all his free time.

Hello young woman who exploits old men.

The dad is getting free housekeeping, good meals and most likely all the sex he wants. What’s exploitative here?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mind your own business. You're concerned because they sometimes go out to eat or go on trips? Why is that an issue? He's enjoying the last years of his life. He doesn't owe you all his free time.

Hello young woman who exploits old men.

The dad is getting free housekeeping, good meals and most likely all the sex he wants. What’s exploitative here?

Except not all young women are doing that. My dad got none of that, paid for all meals out, etc.

[Anonymous]

This happened with my uncle and he gave her large sums of money. Nothing could be done.

[Anonymous]

I think there are enough warning signals for you to be concerned, OP. You are going to need to have a pretty frank conversation with your dad. Is there anyone you can depend on to have that conversation with you when you talk to him? Especially to protect his finances. His money is his; however, it is one thing for him to not have anything left for your inheritance if that is his wish but it is entirely another thing for him to be swindled and for him not to be able to live the rest of his life financially comfortably because he has been robbed. The second is what you need to really be concerned about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there are enough warning signals for you to be concerned, OP. You are going to need to have a pretty frank conversation with your dad. Is there anyone you can depend on to have that conversation with you when you talk to him? Especially to protect his finances. His money is his; however, it is one thing for him to not have anything left for your inheritance if that is his wish but it is entirely another thing for him to be swindled and for him not to be able to live the rest of his life financially comfortably because he has been robbed. The second is what you need to really be concerned about.

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It’s not inheritance you should be concerned about, but his long term living situation.

I’d have a conversation with him and ask him to go to a lawyer and set up a trust to protect his assets. If he does that with you and he is financially protected, then you can relax and let him enjoy his relationship. Quite frankly, it would have been nice if my dad had someone living with him instead of being alone. As they age, it is very helpful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You mind your own business. You're concerned because they sometimes go out to eat or go on trips? Why is that an issue? He's enjoying the last years of his life. He doesn't owe you all his free time.

Hello young woman who exploits old men.

Actually what does the age of the woman have to do with it? Do you think if this woman was 65 instead of 35, the OP would be happy? She’s just upset there’s another woman in the picture.