Do teachers share notes on parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God I hope they do and I hope they laugh and make fun of some of us. They deserve that and I’m happy for them.

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[Anonymous]

Here's an analogy: Imagine your law firm handled someone's divorce and the client was very difficult to work with. The next year they want someone to represent them in a civil suit, it's a different lawyer. Would the first lawyer chat with the second lawyer about the client and what it was like to work with them? I'm not a lawyer so I really don't know, but I have a guess.

[Anonymous]

Here's an analogy: Imagine your law firm handled someone's divorce and the client was very difficult to work with. The next year they want someone to represent them in a civil suit, it's a different lawyer. Would the first lawyer chat with the second lawyer about the client and what it was like to work with them? I'm not a lawyer so I really don't know, but I have a guess.

Good analogy. The information sharing (never in writing) is for professional reasons, not to just gossip about parents. A teacher who knows in advance that a certain parent is difficult to work with or easy to work can help their students more efficiently.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, it's usually just if the dad is hot.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, it's usually just if the dad is hot

I've never heard anyone talk about this. Where do you teach?

[Anonymous]

I know the principal at Bethesda Elementary School did, and it colored all relationships from teachers to counselors to front office staff. Very mean-girl behavior. Other parent volunteers would say things like, "You don't want to get on her bad side." She is a ninny.

[Anonymous]

Teacher at ASFS-we used to laugh about parents who believed themselves and their kids geniuses. Not that we didn’t have actual geniuses, but their parents were usually fine. There was one mom who used to send back her third grader’s marked up writing with her own corrections and cites to a particular style manual she preferred. She fancied herself and her kid gifted writers. We had a lot of fun with that one.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Teacher at ASFS-we used to laugh about parents who believed themselves and their kids geniuses. Not that we didn’t have actual geniuses, but their parents were usually fine. There was one mom who used to send back her third grader’s marked up writing with her own corrections and cites to a particular style manual she preferred. She fancied herself and her kid gifted writers. We had a lot of fun with that one.

But where is that kid now? I know a mom like that, and her kid's in an Ivy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Teacher at ASFS-we used to laugh about parents who believed themselves and their kids geniuses. Not that we didn’t have actual geniuses, but their parents were usually fine. There was one mom who used to send back her third grader’s marked up writing with her own corrections and cites to a particular style manual she preferred. She fancied herself and her kid gifted writers. We had a lot of fun with that one.

But where is that kid now? I know a mom like that, and her kid's in an Ivy.

She’s probably still correcting his work

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Eg do teachers routinely share notes (good or bad) about parents as kids move to the next grade? Like a 1st grade teacher giving a review of parents to the 2nd grade teachers?

You bet they do. The challenging ones, anyway. I knew for example, that little Larla’s mom had sole custody and was an alcoholic to make sure Larla didn’t drive home with her after school. That sort of thing.

[Anonymous]

It's human nature to verbally warn someone of an obnoxiously difficult or crazy person. Teachers just have to interact with the genetic spawn of crazy people so more likely to have these discussions.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Eg do teachers routinely share notes (good or bad) about parents as kids move to the next grade? Like a 1st grade teacher giving a review of parents to the 2nd grade teachers?

You bet they do. The challenging ones, anyway. I knew for example, that little Larla’s mom had sole custody and was an alcoholic to make sure Larla didn’t drive home with her after school. That sort of thing.

Interesting. I saw one of those travel sized vodka bottles in the elementary parking lot after drop off and assumed it was a teacher. Had not considered it was a crazy parent. So sad what some kids deal with before school.

[Anonymous]

Preschool teacher, but yes absolutely. Never in writing. Examples: Johnny struggles with X but the parents are awesome and really receptive so don’t hesitate to reach out. And on the flip side: Henry’s mom is an absolute psycho nightmare so avoid her at all costs.

[Anonymous]

Every spring we complete placement cards for the students in our class. One thing we have to complete is whether a child's parents are "high", "medium", or "low" as far as how much attention they require.

[Anonymous]

Esp the parents (moms) who flirt with the male teachers or higher. Massive eye rolls