I may skip my sister in laws wedding

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I call troll. No way a DH would accept his father grabbing his DW's butt.

+1. I don’t know any man that would.

[Anonymous]

Will your husband and children be there?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My Father in law gropes me

She does not have to attend and she should never let her kids around him. You never have to go to anything where you will sexually assaulted.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You have to attend your husband’s sister’s wedding. Sorry.

I’m not. It’s a hard time for me and I have zero relationship with this couple. We see each other once a year for a night. My husbands dad has been married many times and has kids from all the marriages.

So if you have made up your mind, what's the point of your post. If the events are as bad as you say, my husband would not be attending either. I wouldn't need to fake anything and he wouldn't be going without me. Or you are just a drama queen, hence why you posted.

+ 1 million.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Never be around FIL. Ever. And tell everyone exactly why if they ask.

I can’t believe your husband isn’t protecting you.

If you have a child, YOU MUST PROTECT YOUR CHILD FROM FIL.

NP. Yes. OP, your husband should cut off contact with his father over this. Do you not see that? Your. Husband. Should. Cut. ALL. Contact. With. His. Father.

No exceptions.

Does your DH know? If he does, does he make excuses for his father? "He doesn't mean it." "It's not meant to be sexual! Stop thinking it is!" "It's a joke!" "He does that with all the women, it's a love pat." And most toxic of all, "You're just overreacting; you're too sensitive; you can't take a joke" etc.

If your DH says any of those things, you need to tell him why it is not acceptable at all. Ever. The groping isn't and neither is DH's excusing his father in ANY way. I pray you do not have any children yet.

If her husband says those things, she should realize that it is highly likely that her husband and siblings were sexually assaulted as kids. That's where phrases like this are learned.

Then DH gets into intensive therapy for the abuse pronto. Non-negotiable. If he's saying those things, that is. I get that if he was abused, he would have learned this behavior, which is incredibly tragic, but having learned it as a result of being abused still cannot make it OK for him to use it on OP. That only perpetuates abuse in another form.

[Anonymous]

Of course you skip the wedding. You also tell anyone who asks why you’re skipping it. You also absolutely never, ever, let your children around this man.