Tween is tall and skinny but with a soft belly

[Anonymous]

Come on, guys, it's 2022. We've known for decades there's no such thing as "spot toning."

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Anonymous wrote:If she really wants a workout program check out Get Mom Strong. It’s great for women (especially post-babies, but all women are welcome) and it doesn’t encourage getting smaller. It encourages strength, loving your body, and taking up space.

No! A tween does not need a workout program of any kind. Good grief.

Yeah a workout program encouraging strength and loving your body sounds truly awful! There is nothing wrong with encouraging a teen to work out for health.

It’s a tween, so max age is 12, and said tween wants a “flat belly”. The kid is not on a path to “loving her body”.

[Anonymous]

Starting a life of hating your body at 12. Just wow!

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

[Anonymous]

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

I'm the same size, but I've also been anorexic (thanks, Mom!) and overweight and had a screwed up relationship with food and my body for most of my life. I would never say a word to a tween or teen about my body or her body (especially if she's already skinny!)

A kid who's obliviously a little chubby or soft as a growing tween is in a healthier place than a tween who is skinny and becoming obsessed with exercise and perceived flaws in their body.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm skinny - always have been - and I've always had a "soft belly." I look like an olive on a toothpick. That's just my body shape. I've tried strenuous workout programs, which get me defined arms and legs and a soft belly. I've tried ab/core-centric programs, which gives me lots of muscle under my soft belly. I've tried diet modification, which makes my soft belly smaller but makes everything else smaller first, so I just end up looking like a sad raisin on a toothpick who also needs a nap and a burger. It is what my body shape is.

Honestly, none of this would be a problem if I wasn't convinced, since I can remember, that the only acceptable stomachs are flat stomachs and that looking like you have a belly is HORRIFICALLY EMBARASSING and MUST BE HIDDEN. My body is awesome. I'm strong and healthy, I'm flexible with decent balance, I've got great endurance, I'm a size 6/8, and my kids love to use my stomach as a cuddle spot where they can get comfy. It's my brain that needs fixing, so I can stop seeing my belly as a negative.

You have a chance to at least try to counter some of the FLAT BELLIES ONLY messaging while your DD is still young. Please, please do.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

Do you strive to be a mean girl in all aspects of your life? Or only when encouraging eating disorders?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

Do you strive to be a mean girl in all aspects of your life? Or only when encouraging eating disorders?

How is eating healthy and not being sedentary encouraging eating disorders?

[Anonymous]

question: is this really just a "soft belly" or could it be bloating? I had no personal experience with bloating, and thought one of our DC was getting a little pudgy (nothing to be concerned about, happens before they shoot up) bc they were slim in the arms and legs but had a bigger belly than you'd expect based on that. Turned out it was bloating, not pudge, and was due to undiagnosed celiac disease. Yes, I sound like I am an idiot, but had never really experienced bloating myself so was clueless; I am sharing this here in case there might be others out there who are clueless like me.

(You can't always rely on the pediatrician either - they missed it as well; the CD diagnosis only came about when a mental health professional recommended screening for it due to DC's extremely high levels of anxiety (another often overlooked symptom btw).)

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

Do you strive to be a mean girl in all aspects of your life? Or only when encouraging eating disorders?

How is eating healthy and not being sedentary encouraging eating disorders?

because you can exercise and eat healthy and not be built to be a size 2. are you really dense?

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Anonymous wrote:You don't take her to work out classes for the LOVE OF GOD. You reinforce (all the time) that all bodies are good bodies. Soft bellies are more prevalent than not and make sure she's not only following skinny white stick girls on social media.

I repeat: all bodies are good bodies.

Lol at all bodies are good bodies. You are delusional.

Do you offer lessons in how to make yourself throw up discreetly at work?

No, I just eat a healthy diet and exercise and voila, size 2! It’s really not hard.

Uh huh. Thank your genetics and then shut the f up.

+2. I wasn't a size 2 when I had an underweight BMI. I really hope you don't have daughters with that toxic attitude.

Lol. I model healthy habits at home - prioritize activity and provide lots of healthy food but also desserts and treats. No one in my house is obese can you say the same?

Do you strive to be a mean girl in all aspects of your life? Or only when encouraging eating disorders?

How is eating healthy and not being sedentary encouraging eating disorders?

Quit the gaslighting. You said that you can magically be a size 2 by just eating a healthy diet and exercising. Don't change your claims when you get called out.