Petty Vents Summer 22

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Anonymous wrote:First night we arrive. IL's (MIL, FIL, SIL and 2 kids) have already been there for a few days. FIL says he will order pizza for dinner. Orders ONE pizza for 7 people. 2nd night, declares that he and MIL are going out to dinner alone. SIL makes no move to do anything so I order food for everyone and pay for everyone.
It's not terrible in the grand scheme of things, just so different than my family.

Ugh my ILs under-order, too. Last time we visited them at their rented beach condo for the day (we were staying elsewhere) MIL picked up sandwiches for lunch - three sandwiches for 5 people - with the expectation that we'd each split a sandwich. I'm not talking about giant footlong hoagies, either, just regular deli sandwiches.

MIL does the same. I’m so tired of hearing her exclaim how huge every single food item is. A lot of the time, it’s just a regular portion. She inevitably eats the whole thing and then complains about how we should have shared. I don’t want to share, ever. We will also make a plan to order and then she suddenly starts talking about how we should just eat something from the pantry. No thanks!

My MIL is like this! Just tonight at dinner she went on and on about how her husband gave her way too much spaghetti…she ate it all and an extra piece of garlic bread and dessert but honestly yapped about the portion size for 10 minutes.

I have family members who do this. "We always split our food - waiters are always surprised at how little we order!" followed by, indeed, splitting an appetizer, but then ordering another one and splitting that, and ditto on the main dishes and dessert, so the meal takes forever. It's a running joke in my family whenever we go out to eat with these people. And they are lovely people but it's always a real decision to eat with them because that isn't even all they do. There's also switching tables multiple times, sending back the coffee if it isn't hot enough, and various other things that are super annoying to DH and me because we are pretty low key eaters. I tend to assume if I don't like something i ordered that it's on me, and I would never send anything back to the kitchen unless it was completely uncooked.

One time in college I went out to eat with them (before realizing the full extent of the food crazy) and as they launched into their routine, the waiter took a step back and said slowly, "Hey, I remember you ...." It was mortifying. At least they tip well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just order a few pizzas and salads. No discussion necessary.

At the beach with my husband's family, it is 9:00a, and we are already discussing the pizza order for tonight. We will talk about it for the next 30 minutes and come to no decision. The discussion will "get real" around 4:30p this afternoon and will take at least an hour to come to a decision. We will end up ordering what we always order. EVERY DAMN TIME! At my parents house, they will consult nobody and only order a small for 6 people, so, it is a trade-off. Starve at my parents or long decision making at my ILs.

[Anonymous]

My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

This is super petty given that you are awake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

And, is Dad there? If he is, WHY NOT GO WAKE UP DAD?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First night we arrive. IL's (MIL, FIL, SIL and 2 kids) have already been there for a few days. FIL says he will order pizza for dinner. Orders ONE pizza for 7 people. 2nd night, declares that he and MIL are going out to dinner alone. SIL makes no move to do anything so I order food for everyone and pay for everyone.
It's not terrible in the grand scheme of things, just so different than my family.

Ugh my ILs under-order, too. Last time we visited them at their rented beach condo for the day (we were staying elsewhere) MIL picked up sandwiches for lunch - three sandwiches for 5 people - with the expectation that we'd each split a sandwich. I'm not talking about giant footlong hoagies, either, just regular deli sandwiches.

MIL does the same. I’m so tired of hearing her exclaim how huge every single food item is. A lot of the time, it’s just a regular portion. She inevitably eats the whole thing and then complains about how we should have shared. I don’t want to share, ever. We will also make a plan to order and then she suddenly starts talking about how we should just eat something from the pantry. No thanks!

My MIL is like this! Just tonight at dinner she went on and on about how her husband gave her way too much spaghetti…she ate it all and an extra piece of garlic bread and dessert but honestly yapped about the portion size for 10 minutes.

I have family members who do this. "We always split our food - waiters are always surprised at how little we order!" followed by, indeed, splitting an appetizer, but then ordering another one and splitting that, and ditto on the main dishes and dessert, so the meal takes forever. It's a running joke in my family whenever we go out to eat with these people. And they are lovely people but it's always a real decision to eat with them because that isn't even all they do. There's also switching tables multiple times, sending back the coffee if it isn't hot enough, and various other things that are super annoying to DH and me because we are pretty low key eaters. I tend to assume if I don't like something i ordered that it's on me, and I would never send anything back to the kitchen unless it was completely uncooked.

One time in college I went out to eat with them (before realizing the full extent of the food crazy) and as they launched into their routine, the waiter took a step back and said slowly, "Hey, I remember you ...." It was mortifying. At least they tip well.

My ILs “split a beer” at lunch and refuse to use a second glass, so they are literally swigging out of the same bottle. And then without fail they “split” a second bottle. Like, just drink the beer you drink every day at lunch and don’t act cute like you don’t drink a full one.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

Nephews are 8 & 10 and bowls and cereal are on the counter. Milk is in the fridge. They are perfectly capable of getting it themselves.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

And, is Dad there? If he is, WHY NOT GO WAKE UP DAD?

He is snoozing away still as well.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

And, is Dad there? If he is, WHY NOT GO WAKE UP DAD?

Because PP is a horrible woman who is perpetuating the notion that women are the caretakers and they should be woken up, not Dad. Dads get to sleep in unquestioned.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

Nephews are 8 & 10 and bowls and cereal are on the counter. Milk is in the fridge. They are perfectly capable of getting it themselves.

Then why didn’t you tell them the cereal is in the second cupboard and milk is in the fridge and help yourselves? Hmm? They likely know they are perfectly capable but were seeking permission from an adult to get food. You’re pretty awful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

Do you hate your nieces/nephews? Your SIL?

Agree. If you are up already?

Nephews are 8 & 10 and bowls and cereal are on the counter. Milk is in the fridge. They are perfectly capable of getting it themselves.

Then why are they asking you where the cereal is and why are you telling them you don’t know if it’s on the counter?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

As a parent I would not think that I need to wake up with my 10 year old 5th graders. I also wouldn’t expect that their aunt wouldn’t tell them where the cereal was if they asked. You need to stop vacationing with your extended family.

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Anonymous wrote:My other petty vent, SIL's kids are up and asking for breakfast. Just told them I don't know where the cereal is and they should go wake up mom and ask. .

As a parent I would not think that I need to wake up with my 10 year old 5th graders. I also wouldn’t expect that their aunt wouldn’t tell them where the cereal was if they asked. You need to stop vacationing with your extended family.

Seriously, this. My kids know how to pour cereal and that they may work on the puzzle we have going, read, or have 30 minutes of screen time if Mom and Dad are still sleeping. They know to be quiet (especially with footsteps on wooden staircases and to whisper, not talk) if others are sleeping.

Imagine the aunt would wouldn’t be able to open her mouth and say, “Feel free to help yourself to cereal if you are hungry” and instead would rather stew and complain about two adults with old-enough kids daring to sleep in on vacation.

Now, if my kids were legitimately bothering people by being loud or whining about wanting aunt to make French toast or something, by all means send them back to the room with me. But that would never happen.