As a guest, which do you prefer - gift or no gift parties?

[Anonymous]

Gifts. I'm not comfortable showing up empty-handed, and I believe children should get gifts on their birthdays.

[Anonymous]

No gifts. I think it’s better for the kids to just enjoy their celebration with their friends.

[Anonymous]

It is tacky to say anything. I always bring a gift.

[Anonymous]

Just say nothing, half the people bring half don’t

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No gifts. I think it’s better for the kids to just enjoy their celebration with their friends.

Agree. Mine always make a card and put a lot of effort into it.

Gifts are just another hassle for the parent and your kid has enough stuff already and is probably getting plenty of birthday gifts from family

[Anonymous]

My kids are 8 and 6 and still love getting cards from their friends. We’ve always had only no gift parties. They get lots of birthday gifts from us and our family and family (adult) friends.

No gift is the best way to go.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to say anything. I always bring a gift.

Yeah we tend to skip the parties that mention this at all because it is tacky AF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As a guest, I prefer no gifts.

+1
One less thing to do.

[Anonymous]

The last no gift party I went to, I had my son make a card for his friend. Then a parent showed up with a gift AND insisted that it be opened by the birthday boy then and there, who of course just loved his new lego set, and the other parents felt like cheapos who should have brought gifts anyway. I don't care if anyone brings a gift to my child's party or not, but I won't mention anything about gifts on the invitation because saying "no gifts" or "use my registry" just creates social awkwardness all around.

[Anonymous]

No gift; less hassle, less waste.

[Anonymous]

I love giving gifts so for me a no gift party is sad. You could do "bring your favorite books" if you don't want toys but, it is very sweet when your child's friends pick out the presents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My kids are 8 and 6 and still love getting cards from their friends. We’ve always had only no gift parties. They get lots of birthday gifts from us and our family and family (adult) friends.

No gift is the best way to go.

I am asking this sincerely. Did you have birthday parties? Were you parents "no gifts"? Could it kill you to let the kids have some joy? Learning how to receive a gift and give a gift is an important part of life skills! Have fewer birthday parties ( maybe milestone) but don't cut out presents.

[Anonymous]

Seriously people LIKE bringing gifts?!?? No gifts all the way. Too much mental load to shop, wrap and prep everything in advance. I have enough stuff to do and I don't need to get your kid a toy that they may or may not like

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks for the feedback. We will not do a gift registry and it is his whole class plus at his party.

I think we’ll do No Gifts.

Did you have parties growing up? Did your parents tell people not to give gifts. If yes and no than I think you are mean.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It is tacky to say anything. I always bring a gift.

Yeah we tend to skip the parties that mention this at all because it is tacky AF.

That’s great! Please keep skipping the no gift parties! That’ll show them!