Boy on the Bus Told My Kid to Shut Up

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your next steps are high fiving your DD and congratulating her on handling a tough situation. Tell her to avoid/ignore him.

It’s a life lesson.

If you do anything more, you will be a karen.

+1

[Anonymous]

I believe you should immediately reach out to the National Security Council and demand a Geneva Convention filing before The Hague. anything less than that would be irresponsible parenting. Chop chop.

[Anonymous]

call 911

[Anonymous]

OP, your next step is to NOT dwell on this. Building resilience in your children is one of the most important factors in raising happy children.

"What a big meanie! I guess he must have been having a really rough day. Shall we play 15 minutes of Minecraft?"

[Anonymous]

You can’t get involved in nothings like this. It will hurt your daughter, not help.

[Anonymous]

Maybe he was setting boundaries around your daughter’s rude behavior? Perhaps you will be getting a call from HIS overbearing mother to do something about your daughter?

[Anonymous]

Don’t be so hard on OP. It’s kind of sweet that she’s upset over hearing shut up. I hope that’s the worst thing your daughter ever says to anyone when she’s older.

[Anonymous]

troll post

[Anonymous]

He sounds like an I’ll-parented brat. Tell her to sit far away from him and ignore him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 1st grader just came home upset and announced that a boy on the bus told her to shut up when she was trying to chat with him.
She doesn't know his name, they just occasionally make small talk on the bus. He's in her year but not in her class.
She reacted by saying something like "That's not kind, I don't want you to speak to me like that." and he said "I don't care".

What are my next steps here? I don't want to be a Karen and it feels relatively minor to call the school over (especially given that all I know is that it's a first grade boy with no identifying characteristics). I just want to make my daughter feel better and teach her how to handle it next time it happens. In our house, no one speaks like that, so she was totally caught unawares.

You need to learn that your kid's version of events may or may not resemble the reality of what transpires. Also, you sound absurd. Shut up.

Found another spoiled brat, just like this boy, except the supposedly “adult” version. How embarrassing for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When my kid was in first grade the teacher next door to her class told the kids to shut up. I had a friend with a son in the class and she emailed the Principal. I would overlook another kid saying it, not everyone is raised to be kind. But I’m not about to let a teacher talk to my kid like that. Lucky for her she wasn’t my kids teacher.

Umm don't teachers tell kids to shut up (or at least a slightly politer "be quiet") a lot of the time so they can actually teach? They certainly did when I was at school! I couldn't imagine be parents complaining about a mildly irate teacher who is having to deal with a bunch of rowdy kids!

You do t understand the difference between an adult in authority telling kids to “be quiet” or “shut up.” I feel sorry for you.

[Anonymous]

Just when I thought people couldn't get more ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

It’s not a ridiculous post. People post here to get gut checks on how to support their kids with some proportionality. Some of you are total assholes. Just give advice, or scroll on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not a ridiculous post. People post here to get gut checks on how to support their kids with some proportionality. Some of you are total assholes. Just give advice, or scroll on.

This is the definition of helicopter parenting. Your kid can handle being told to shut up on their own, and if they can't, you are doing something wrong as a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your next steps are high fiving your DD and congratulating her on handling a tough situation. Tell her to avoid/ignore him.

It’s a life lesson.

If you do anything more, you will be a karen.

+1

+1 Nothing more you can or should do. PS saying shut up to someone is peanuts and nothing to worry about.