Boy on the Bus Told My Kid to Shut Up

[Anonymous]

My 1st grader just came home upset and announced that a boy on the bus told her to shut up when she was trying to chat with him.
She doesn't know his name, they just occasionally make small talk on the bus. He's in her year but not in her class.
She reacted by saying something like "That's not kind, I don't want you to speak to me like that." and he said "I don't care".

What are my next steps here? I don't want to be a Karen and it feels relatively minor to call the school over (especially given that all I know is that it's a first grade boy with no identifying characteristics). I just want to make my daughter feel better and teach her how to handle it next time it happens. In our house, no one speaks like that, so she was totally caught unawares.

[Anonymous]

OMG

[Anonymous]

Your daughter handled it, OP. There is nothing more to do.

[Anonymous]

Your next steps are high fiving your DD and congratulating her on handling a tough situation. Tell her to avoid/ignore him.

It’s a life lesson.

If you do anything more, you will be a karen.

[Anonymous]

Your daughter has to learn that not everyone wants to talk to her all the time!! Sounds like she handled it fine. There is absolutely nothing for you to do but to teach your daughter to let it go and move on.

[Anonymous]

i'm a little shocked you felt the need to post here, OP. Your daughter handled it terrifically. It's not your job to correct rude behavior of every child your daughter comes into contact with. You need to toughen up and buckle up.

[Anonymous]

I am astounded you think you should do anything else. Your daughter handled it (great job to have taught her that) and now teach her to ignore the boy and move on.

[Anonymous]

Oh wow, wait til she has to ride the middle school bus.

[Anonymous]

Lololololol!!!!!!!!

OP, you taught your daughter how to handle herself well, and that’s what she did. Nothing more to do here.

[Anonymous]

You've done what you could. You taught your daughter how to respond and she did so.

If you do anything else, you would be a helicoptering Karen. There is nothing more that the school or bus company should or could do. Your daughter was pestering another student who wanted her to leave him alone. Yes, he was rude about it, but they can't mandate that the other child has to let your child bother him if he doesn't want her to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 1st grader just came home upset and announced that a boy on the bus told her to shut up when she was trying to chat with him.
She doesn't know his name, they just occasionally make small talk on the bus. He's in her year but not in her class.
She reacted by saying something like "That's not kind, I don't want you to speak to me like that." and he said "I don't care".

What are my next steps here? I don't want to be a Karen and it feels relatively minor to call the school over (especially given that all I know is that it's a first grade boy with no identifying characteristics). I just want to make my daughter feel better and teach her how to handle it next time it happens. In our house, no one speaks like that, so she was totally caught unawares.

Oh wow, you cannot be serious??

[Anonymous]

Call the police. You must document this so the next time the child offends he can get into the juvenile system where he belongs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 1st grader just came home upset and announced that a boy on the bus told her to shut up when she was trying to chat with him.
She doesn't know his name, they just occasionally make small talk on the bus. He's in her year but not in her class.
She reacted by saying something like "That's not kind, I don't want you to speak to me like that." and he said "I don't care".

What are my next steps here? I don't want to be a Karen and it feels relatively minor to call the school over (especially given that all I know is that it's a first grade boy with no identifying characteristics). I just want to make my daughter feel better and teach her how to handle it next time it happens. In our house, no one speaks like that, so she was totally caught unawares.

You need to learn that your kid's version of events may or may not resemble the reality of what transpires. Also, you sound absurd. Shut up.

[Anonymous]

That kid might be autistic. Or just having a really hard day. That doesn’t excuse the behavior but please think a minute about what this is like from his perspective.

I agree your daughter handled it well.

[Anonymous]

I can't believe that you think this is the worst that she will hear on the bus! It is a learning experience that is tough. TBH, she will hear even worse in classes as she gets older. The best thing you can teach her is how to handle herself and ignore.

I'm not going to lie when I say that I am very jealous that you have gotten to this point with this being your largest issue.