Is this person still not a friend?

[Anonymous]

You said it yourself that you are colleagues. So she doesn’t want to be close friends but she’s not interested in making enemy with someone she works with. You may have said inappropriate things at the last event, or she just doesn’t want you to see how she behaves with her real friends since you’re a colleague.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What was the milestone event? Like a wedding where they had to pay $200 per head? Maybe they wanted to invite only a close circle of relatives and friends to save money, and work friends did not make the cut. But she still considered you a friend enough that when she knew you were close by, she wanted to get together with you. If you like her company, accept that invitation and don’t ask for more. It’s unclear whether she invited others in your circle and not you.

A birthday. I had been invited in previous years. Oh, well.

OP

Then I'd definitely be hurt too, OP, especially if there wasn't a gap of you two not keeping in touch for a few years where it would make more sense not to be invited to the last birthday.

Thank you for the validation. I feel better about it. One reason it stung is because we had previously invited each other over the years. I can handle a shift in friendships usually but this one hurt.

Weirdly, we ended up talking today and they kept wanting to stay on the phone while I was ready to close the call. I think there are things I will never understand here.

OP

The more to post, the more I suspect there is more context to you not being invited to the birthday, that you know what it is, and that you’re not sharing it because you’re not sure it will reflect favorably on you. This discussion has been a whole lot of vaguebooking while dodging details of what actually happened.

Here we go again with gas lighting an OP and making stuff up 🙄

+1

lol. I don't know why I wasn't invited, and it's okay if you don't believe me.

[Anonymous]

She blew it and feels bad. The invitation is to make up for the slight.