If a mom friend of yours punched her babysitter who sh’s thought was having an affair with her DH

[Anonymous]

Is the babysitter hot?

[Anonymous]

Did she learn nothing from will smith

[Anonymous]

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How would you react? Would you be more ‘okay’ with the violence given she thought the babysitter was having an affair with her husband. Babysitter is in her 20s mom is in her 40s FWIW. In general, would you be more forgiving of getting physical when an affair or betrayal is involved?

Like the Hillsong guy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
How would you react? Would you be more ‘okay’ with the violence given she thought the babysitter was having an affair with her husband. Babysitter is in her 20s mom is in her 40s FWIW. In general, would you be more forgiving of getting physical when an affair or betrayal is involved?

If she had proof? I'd be OK with it and help her through her divorce as best I could. I also wouldn't call it violence unless she was a good mark and black belt who actually knew how to punch to hurt or break a trachea.

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Anonymous wrote:
How would you react? Would you be more ‘okay’ with the violence given she thought the babysitter was having an affair with her husband. Babysitter is in her 20s mom is in her 40s FWIW. In general, would you be more forgiving of getting physical when an affair or betrayal is involved?

Nope her husband is the one who cheated, if it even happened. Shes taking it out on the babysitter who isnt in a relationship with her. The violence is one problem, her choice of victim is another.

babysitter has a big relationship with her. she is trusted to take care of her kids. Making out with or flirting with or sleeping with the dad of your charges is disgusting. That means each of they have been lying to the wife/mom for gawd knows how long. What a violation of trust and morals and ethics.

[Anonymous]

Violence is never an answer. I'd never watch any Will Smith movie again.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m torn between 18:22 and 18:28.

So I wouldn’t judge but it sounds like you don’t want to really be friends with her anymore OP, and that’s fine and you don’t have to feel bad about it.

Depends on the level of friendship. With a close friend, I’d be empathetic while also feeling bad for the babysitter. I’d continue to support a close friend. People make mistakes. There a lot of emotions around affairs and betrayal. I wouldn’t pass judgement. Life happens. This is if it’s a longtime close friend bc I love
my friends like family. For an acquaintance, I wouldn’t pass judgement but I’d not offer support either. In either situation, I’d want to make sure the babysitter was okay/being supported. I’ve known people who really got the cold shoulder from the world after having affairs with married men and this is firmly against my values. The husband is at fault here. The babysitter deserves compassion and care.

How is it a mistake to sleep with or text flirty things with the married father of children you babysit.
That's disgusting and amoral. Babysitter must be mentally ill loose cannon.

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Anonymous wrote:What? You should make sure the babysitter knows assault charges are her option.

And that her husband gets custody.

easy to refute given a wife's emotional state upon learning that her husband has been sleeping with the babysitter of their children.

if I were her friend I'd drop kick the sitter and the cheating husband.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What? You should make sure the babysitter knows assault charges are her option.

And that her husband gets custody.

easy to refute given a wife's emotional state upon learning that her husband has been sleeping with the babysitter of their children.

if I were her friend I'd drop kick the sitter and the cheating husband.

And as the friend what would you say if your friend stuck by her cheating husband who has publicly slept with other younger women twice?

Especially if you both professed to be enlightened smart women?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What? You should make sure the babysitter knows assault charges are her option.

And that her husband gets custody.

easy to refute given a wife's emotional state upon learning that her husband has been sleeping with the babysitter of their children.

if I were her friend I'd drop kick the sitter and the cheating husband.

Kids are going to do things to you that impact your emotional state too. She got upset, maybe justifiably, and instead of hurting the person who hurt her, she found a more physically vulnerable person and assaulted them.

[Anonymous]

This would be out of character for any of my friends but obviously a special circumstance. They would clearly be in a state to need a friend more than ever. I would be there for them with support. Someone suffering like that doesn't need to be bailed out on. I like to think I have weeded out the "cut and run" type of friends like those PPs without empathy.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t be ok with the behavior but people are human and eff up sometimes so I’d try to be understanding given she showed remorse for her actions.

[Anonymous]

Walk away. Too much drama.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How would you react? Would you be more ‘okay’ with the violence given she thought the babysitter was having an affair with her husband. Babysitter is in her 20s mom is in her 40s FWIW. In general, would you be more forgiving of getting physical when an affair or betrayal is involved?

Nope her husband is the one who cheated, if it even happened. Shes taking it out on the babysitter who isnt in a relationship with her. The violence is one problem, her choice of victim is another.

babysitter has a big relationship with her. she is trusted to take care of her kids. Making out with or flirting with or sleeping with the dad of your charges is disgusting. That means each of they have been lying to the wife/mom for gawd knows how long. What a violation of trust and morals and ethics.

Not at all.

First, if the babysitter is a minor, this is a criminal case.

Second, the babysitter is an employee and there is a very unequal power dynamic between her and her male boss. The male boss is at fault, because he immorally used his influence and power, and possibly coercion, over his employee.

Third, the babysitter signed a job contract with her employers. The husband took vows of fidelity with his wife, or at least they were implied. The latter is a much stronger bond than the former, in any society.

Conclusion: the husband is a lot more guilty in this situation than the babysitter. Please do not go after the babysitter. I can see a situation where she'd be the victim too!

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
How would you react? Would you be more ‘okay’ with the violence given she thought the babysitter was having an affair with her husband. Babysitter is in her 20s mom is in her 40s FWIW. In general, would you be more forgiving of getting physical when an affair or betrayal is involved?

Nope her husband is the one who cheated, if it even happened. Shes taking it out on the babysitter who isnt in a relationship with her. The violence is one problem, her choice of victim is another.

babysitter has a big relationship with her. she is trusted to take care of her kids. Making out with or flirting with or sleeping with the dad of your charges is disgusting. That means each of they have been lying to the wife/mom for gawd knows how long. What a violation of trust and morals and ethics.

Not at all.

First, if the babysitter is a minor, this is a criminal case.

Second, the babysitter is an employee and there is a very unequal power dynamic between her and her male boss. The male boss is at fault, because he immorally used his influence and power, and possibly coercion, over his employee.

Third, the babysitter signed a job contract with her employers. The husband took vows of fidelity with his wife, or at least they were implied. The latter is a much stronger bond than the former, in any society.

Conclusion: the husband is a lot more guilty in this situation than the babysitter. Please do not go after the babysitter. I can see a situation where she'd be the victim too!

The babysitter should have sued for employer harassment and pursued criminal charges.