Summer vacation sticky situation?

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Anonymous wrote:Why are you planning a vacation in a location that you know will cause drama? It sounds like you're intentionally trying to be mean to your MIL. Go to the Hamptons or go further up the coast to Maine. Why do you specifically have to go to Chatham? Even your reasoning sounds lame that you have a hard year coming up. Try to be kind, OP, and remember that what goes around comes around.

I'm confused where the Chatham thing is coming from, as the hard year coming up - neither detail of which is in the post.

??? There aren't many "resorts" on the Cape. Chatham is the only place that has bona fide resort.

Uh, not true. Pelham House is in Dennis. Wequassett is in Harwich. Ocean Edge is in Brewster.
Just sayin'

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When you go in a family va action, don’t go to the cape

Maine is nice

You can always invite her to have her own room whether you pay or not

When the kids are old enough send one or two to Gma for a few weeks in summer

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What about Newport?

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Goodness, just book your resort. Enough already with the husband crap.

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Your husband is the next authority on what would upset his mother. Doesn’t matter if you (or we) think she should be upset; the question is whether your vacation is worth upsetting your MIL about. Personally, I would head up to Maine.

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The resort sounds lovely but at the cost of creating so much conflict, I wouldn't do it. I would also recommend Maine and just say that you are doing something totally different. It's definitely drive-able; I've driven from VA!

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Don’t you as a couple figure out vacations? I cant imagine planning a vacation that my spouse doesn’t want to do. It wouldn’t be fun if we both weren’t into it. And it would be an endless source of conflict for the future.

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I think it is interesting that the only two places OP has considered is "the cape" and Hilton Head.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why are you planning a vacation in a location that you know will cause drama? It sounds like you're intentionally trying to be mean to your MIL. Go to the Hamptons or go further up the coast to Maine. Why do you specifically have to go to Chatham? Even your reasoning sounds lame that you have a hard year coming up. Try to be kind, OP, and remember that what goes around comes around.

I'm confused where the Chatham thing is coming from, as the hard year coming up - neither detail of which is in the post.

??? There aren't many "resorts" on the Cape. Chatham is the only place that has bona fide resort.

Uh, not true. Pelham House is in Dennis. Wequassett is in Harwich. Ocean Edge is in Brewster.
Just sayin'

None of those qualify as "resorts" imo. DP

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is interesting that the only two places OP has considered is "the cape" and Hilton Head.

Why is it interesting? CT beaches are bad. Maine ocean water is cold. Hamptons - pricy and far.
Jersey Shore is a mood but?

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What about Nantucket or Martha's Vineyard if you really want New England beach. MIL couldn't begrudge you not staying with her if you were headed to either island. She couldn't expect you to stay in place and take ferry over daily.

[Anonymous]

I would consider Newport. But also, it can be a slippery slope with ILs like this. We apparently are not able to vacation in the entire state of FL now without "hurt feelings" due to a similar situation. Ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it is interesting that the only two places OP has considered is "the cape" and Hilton Head.

Why is it interesting? CT beaches are bad. Maine ocean water is cold. Hamptons - pricy and far.
Jersey Shore is a mood but?

For pete's sake you could literally pick anyplace else that won't make MIL feel awful and make your husband feel awful. It cannot be that the ONLY place with a reasonable resort is the one that's going to cause conflict! Unless you're looking for conflict, in which case, have at it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What about Nantucket or Martha's Vineyard if you really want New England beach. MIL couldn't begrudge you not staying with her if you were headed to either island. She couldn't expect you to stay in place and take ferry over daily.

These are good choices and OP really needs to be bringing her DH on board when vacation planning, as others have noted.

[Anonymous]

How about the Watch Hill Inn in RI? We did that last year and it was lovely.