Newly dating and birthday- what’s appropriate?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

What the heck? You’ve been on six dates and yuore worried it’s not ok to ask him to dinner? Make the reservation and then ask if you’d rather get dinner. Honestly if you can’t feel comfortable getting dinner with a guy after date six there’s something wrong

OP: I feel comfortable getting dinner with him, but it is more about me treating for his bday. Dinner would be about $200 all in, and drinks probably $70-80. Wondering if he might feel weird about that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

What the heck? You’ve been on six dates and yuore worried it’s not ok to ask him to dinner? Make the reservation and then ask if you’d rather get dinner. Honestly if you can’t feel comfortable getting dinner with a guy after date six there’s something wrong

OP: I feel comfortable getting dinner with him, but it is more about me treating for his bday. Dinner would be about $200 all in, and drinks probably $70-80. Wondering if he might feel weird about that.

Yeah, definitely stick to drinks. Makes more sense at this stage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

What the heck? You’ve been on six dates and yuore worried it’s not ok to ask him to dinner? Make the reservation and then ask if you’d rather get dinner. Honestly if you can’t feel comfortable getting dinner with a guy after date six there’s something wrong

OP: I feel comfortable getting dinner with him, but it is more about me treating for his bday. Dinner would be about $200 all in, and drinks probably $70-80. Wondering if he might feel weird about that.

Yeah, definitely stick to drinks. Makes more sense at this stage.

Op: thanks for weighing in. Would it change anything that he has paid for all previous dates? (I’ve offered, but he refused).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

What the heck? You’ve been on six dates and yuore worried it’s not ok to ask him to dinner? Make the reservation and then ask if you’d rather get dinner. Honestly if you can’t feel comfortable getting dinner with a guy after date six there’s something wrong

OP: I feel comfortable getting dinner with him, but it is more about me treating for his bday. Dinner would be about $200 all in, and drinks probably $70-80. Wondering if he might feel weird about that.

Yeah, definitely stick to drinks. Makes more sense at this stage.

Op: thanks for weighing in. Would it change anything that he has paid for all previous dates? (I’ve offered, but he refused).

Nah. Keep it light and just do drinks.