Newly dating and birthday- what’s appropriate?
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Anonymous
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I’ve been on 6 dates with a guy. We’re both 40 and divorced. His birthday is next week (age 41).
What is appropriate at this stage for me to do, if anything? Buy a gift? Treat him to dinner? Nothing? We’re dating but not exclusive, or bf/gf, if that matters. |
Anonymous
| Well whatever you do, don't get him any books! |
Anonymous
| Buy a special desert if you're not out. If you have plans to go out, buy dinner. |
Anonymous
If he didn't make plans to see you for it I wouldn't do anything aside from a text. |
Anonymous
This is a bit off-topic, but does he have kids? |
Anonymous
Op: yes he does (young). |
Anonymous
Op: shouldn’t I ask him if he has bday plans? Or no? |
Anonymous
I would ask him if he has plans, since he might with his kids. If not, I would treat him to dinner or if celebrating at home do a special dessert as that PP suggested. |
Anonymous
| I'd say, I'd love to take you out for bday drinks! What night is good for you? |
Anonymous
| Depends on how close you’ve gotten. If it’s a question mark, then send a text saying happy birthday and say next time we’re out let’s celebrate! If you’re already deeply (mutually) in love then of course you should ask him. |
Anonymous
This one! |
Anonymous
| The guy I have been seeing, I got him a cupcake for his birthday after about two weeks of dating. Didn’t make a big deal out of it. A few weeks later on my birthday, he had gotten me a cute dress, though I was NOT expecting anything of that nature at all. |
Anonymous
| If we're six dates in and still seeing other people, he gets a text. |
Anonymous
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What is your gut telling you? If the guy is nice and has been open and transparent and you feel comfortable with him, then I think extending an offer to take him for birthday drinks is a good idea if its in your budget.
If hes a little sometimey/distant, MIA at times then nothing. |
Anonymous
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