Newly dating and birthday- what’s appropriate?

[Anonymous]

A birthday BJ is always nice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been on 6 dates with a guy. We’re both 40 and divorced. His birthday is next week (age 41).

What is appropriate at this stage for me to do, if anything? Buy a gift? Treat him to dinner? Nothing?

We’re dating but not exclusive, or bf/gf, if that matters.

This is a bit off-topic, but does he have kids?

Op: yes he does (young).

Hm. And you're sure he's being truthful about his age? Just wondering.

[Anonymous]

I saw a guy fir a second date on my bday. He set the whole thing up took me out for nice lunch and gave me a (relevant) book which I thought was incredibly sweet. He is, in fact, incredibly sweet and courteous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’ve been on 6 dates with a guy. We’re both 40 and divorced. His birthday is next week (age 41).

What is appropriate at this stage for me to do, if anything? Buy a gift? Treat him to dinner? Nothing?

We’re dating but not exclusive, or bf/gf, if that matters.

If he didn't make plans to see you for it I wouldn't do anything aside from a text.

Op: shouldn’t I ask him if he has bday plans? Or no?

Not exclusive, so may be w/ someone else!

[Anonymous]

Since you're not exclusive, I would not offer to do anything special or ask him what his plans are. I would max send him a text on his birthday, and if you happen to have plans during the same week I'd do something small like bring him a funny card or buy the drinks or maybe bring him a sweet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Since you're not exclusive, I would not offer to do anything special or ask him what his plans are. I would max send him a text on his birthday, and if you happen to have plans during the same week I'd do something small like bring him a funny card or buy the drinks or maybe bring him a sweet.

Yep. No girlfriend activities!

[Anonymous]

OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

[Anonymous]

I’d keep it at drinks

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

I would stick to drinks. Unless you really want eat at that restaurant this week.

Also, I'm really wondering if this guy is my exH...for a few reasons.

[Anonymous]

A personal lap dance

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

I would stick to drinks. Unless you really want eat at that restaurant this week.

Also, I'm really wondering if this guy is my exH...for a few reasons.

OP: Hmmm! First initial?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

I would stick to drinks. Unless you really want eat at that restaurant this week.

Also, I'm really wondering if this guy is my exH...for a few reasons.

OP: Hmmm! First initial?

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

I would stick to drinks. Unless you really want eat at that restaurant this week.

Also, I'm really wondering if this guy is my exH...for a few reasons.

OP: Hmmm! First initial?

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OP: okay- not him!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

I would stick to drinks. Unless you really want eat at that restaurant this week.

Also, I'm really wondering if this guy is my exH...for a few reasons.

OP: Hmmm! First initial?

N

OP: okay- not him!

Ok, phew OP. Because my ex is not someone with whom you would want to be involved. He puts on a good show initially...before it goes downhill. Just witnessed this, again, with GF #11 (or something, lost count). Awful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Update. I decided not to get him a gift, but I offered to take him out for birthday drinks this week, and he said he'd love to. A reservation just opened up on the same night for a place I've been wanting to try. Should I switch it to a birthday dinner? Or is that too much, and stick to drinks?

What the heck? You’ve been on six dates and yuore worried it’s not ok to ask him to dinner? Make the reservation and then ask if you’d rather get dinner. Honestly if you can’t feel comfortable getting dinner with a guy after date six there’s something wrong