Supporting friend through separation/divorce

[Anonymous]

Women divorcing support groups needed. And new friend groups needed- mom & activity based. I suspect I will have regrow a cool friend group.

I work in DC, have two adolescent kids, they go to private schools, and am escaping a bad and possibly dangerous situation. UMC I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Women divorcing support groups needed. And new friend groups needed- mom & activity based. I suspect I will have regrow a cool friend group.

I work in DC, have two adolescent kids, they go to private schools, and am escaping a bad and possibly dangerous situation. UMC I guess.

I am in same situation: moved 1 mile away from my neighborhood and all my past "friends" just dissipated. Maybe they are still friends with my cheater exH not sure. But I feel terribly lonely.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women divorcing support groups needed. And new friend groups needed- mom & activity based. I suspect I will have regrow a cool friend group.

I work in DC, have two adolescent kids, they go to private schools, and am escaping a bad and possibly dangerous situation. UMC I guess.

I am in same situation: moved 1 mile away from my neighborhood and all my past "friends" just dissipated. Maybe they are still friends with my cheater exH not sure. But I feel terribly lonely.

I was the trailing spouse for my ex's job. He moved us 2000 miles away and snapped ~ the abuse ramping up coincided directly with our cross country move. When he left, after a lot of abuse, I was new in town and all of the SAHM friends I had made in that year scattered like chaff in the wind when they saw me have to go back to work. I now out earn my Ex, and wont give any of those women the time of day, but it was devestating to feel so abandoned. It probably forever broke me.

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Anonymous wrote:Um, back to OP…
Just listen if she wants to talk and don’t push if she doesn’t.
Personally, I found it irritating as f for people to ask about dating. It felt like they would be more comfortable if I was a couple then a single mom. Maybe that’s just me though.
I don’t know how close you are but simple things like “hey I’m doing a Costco run, need anything?” Or offering to help out with random days off from school or drop offs/ pick ups. One of my neighbors was really wonderful about that and we ended up becoming better friends.

This.

Do couples friends all dump you once you divorce and are single parenting? I guess there goes the beach and ski house share trips….

Yes, most do. It was the worst part of divorce, for me. That blindsided me.

Are children also bullied or ostracized? Especially if you get or k-8 grades?

I'm one of the PPs and I did not experience what other PPs are describing, FWIW. One set of "couple friends" kind of faded away, but I think that may have been more about stuff going on with them than about my divorce. Other sets of friends actually really stepped up, made sure to invite me to things, and to invite me AND the kids to all of the same sorts of things we'd been invited to before.

Of course, I'm not really in the beach and ski house demographic, so maybe middle class folks deal with this sort of thing better?

Maybe, People relate to hardship better in MC, or its more rare as many cant afford it, so the cultural help is there. The UMC divorcees just wrap ourselves in our money and tears.