How to respond to daughter dating an older woman

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Any 27-year-old that would date a high school senior has something deeply wrong with them. Absolutely not okay.

Ok . But, don’t you think this situation is different on some level?

DP, and I think this and some other opposite sex situations might be different from straight-up predatory older man. But it's still off, and while I wouldn't veto the relationship, I would offer the mildest, least-judgmental version of my concern: Even an 18YO who's very mature and a 27YO who took some time to find their adult footing are in very different places in their lives, so it's not a question of "What does she see in her?" -- I totally get what each of you sees -- but how can you live the life you need to live in a way that includes the other? It's not a great Venn diagram, is my point.

Could the 27 year old also be straight up predatory?

Also, if you know the answer OP, are they sexually active yet?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Any 27-year-old that would date a high school senior has something deeply wrong with them. Absolutely not okay.

Ok . But, don’t you think this situation is different on some level?

PP here. No.

[Anonymous]

Predator.

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DOES SHE Have moneyu?

[Anonymous]

Way too big an age difference/life stage difference at this point. If your DD was 22 and the woman was 30, that would be o.k., but a high schooler is so impressionable and naive about life. Saying this, I know my DD would have snuck around it if we said no, so there isn't too much you can do about it other than discourage it. My DD was rebellious in HS and now as a senior in college, regrets some of the choices she made but realizes they were her own doing.

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When I was a 17/18 year old senior I dated a 28 year old man.We had sex. Turns out he was on a break from his long term girlfriend who he ended marrying around age 30 and later had 2 kids with. Things just drifted apart at the end of my senior year and I went on to college and dated a guy my own age. I honestly came through the entire thing pretty unscathed--I think because emotionally i knew it was temporary as I was leaving for college so I never allowed myself to get too attached. In my mind I was moving on to bigger and better things the next year (moving away from home). In fact, I have quite fond memories of sneaking around with him. He was hot, rich (in my mind) and it was a giant ego boost for an 17/18 year old. We would go to hotels out-of-town. It was pretty darn exciting.
Now that I have a 16 year old I wouldn't be thrilled if she did the same and I'd wonder what was wrong with the guy but I can testify that it really did me no harm to be the child in this situation.