How to ask a guy what he’s looking for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I ask and get a variety of answers:

--looking for my person
--looking for companionship
--looking for someone to go to dinner and have sex with
--looking for marriage
--looking for someone to have fun with and not monogamy
--"I am not sure" (this means FWB)

Nice that people are so upfront. I would think at an older age you want to be on the same page. Different than dating in your 20s when you have more time to F around.

Yes and no. I’m 43 and divorced, already have my kids so I’m not in a rush to get married again/don’t have a bio clock ticking.

Same here, and it has been great for dating not to have a deadline/clock. I can take time getting to know people and testing for compatibility, and chemistry, without the distortions caused by a ticking clock.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going on date 3 tmrw with someone I like a lot so far, and I think it’s mutual, so far. Is it too soon to ask what he’s looking for? And what is the best way to ask him without sounding so forceful?

It depends. If you are over 21 and looking for a serious relationship, use clear sentences and find out even if it means risking not moving forward. If he wants a hook up and you want a serious partner, both are wasting each other's time.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't mean you are asking each other for a commitment but to make sure you are on same journey.