How to ask a guy what he’s looking for?

[Anonymous]

Going on date 3 tmrw with someone I like a lot so far, and I think it’s mutual, so far. Is it too soon to ask what he’s looking for? And what is the best way to ask him without sounding so forceful?

[Anonymous]

Maybe you could start by telling him what you are looking for, and then seeing how he responds.

[Anonymous]

He'll give you the answer he thinks you want, even if it isn't the truth.

[Anonymous]

Like in terms of an LTR? Or in a partner?

[Anonymous]

Just play this song for him:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He'll give you the answer he thinks you want, even if it isn't the truth.

Yes.

Pretty much any time a woman asks "what are you looking for" they mean "I will only sleep with you if we have an exclusive, committed relationship."

Men know this so will reply in affirmative. Some men meet it. Others go on to band the other chicks in his Bumble queue.

[Anonymous]

What are you going to do with the information? Stop seeing him? It’s still too early. Just see where things go for now.

[Anonymous]

I use the words, “what are you looking for?” prior to meeting them. If it’s not aligned why waste anyone’s time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe you could start by telling him what you are looking for, and then seeing how he responds.

+1

[Anonymous]

OP: I really want to sleep with him. But also don’t know if I want to go through possibly being ghosted after.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He'll give you the answer he thinks you want, even if it isn't the truth.

Yes.

Pretty much any time a woman asks "what are you looking for" they mean "I will only sleep with you if we have an exclusive, committed relationship."

Men know this so will reply in affirmative. Some men meet it. Others go on to band the other chicks in his Bumble queue.

Yep. Even in affairs- men will lie and say they are looking to leave their wives or very least that they “love you too”. Lying out their buttholes to keep having sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He'll give you the answer he thinks you want, even if it isn't the truth.

Yes.

Pretty much any time a woman asks "what are you looking for" they mean "I will only sleep with you if we have an exclusive, committed relationship."

Men know this so will reply in affirmative. Some men meet it. Others go on to band the other chicks in his Bumble queue.

Yep. Even in affairs- men will lie and say they are looking to leave their wives or very least that they “love you too”. Lying out their buttholes to keep having sex.

Sooo basically everything’s a gamble.

[Anonymous]

It starts with, “What and ends with for?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I really want to sleep with him. But also don’t know if I want to go through possibly being ghosted after.

Only way to find out if to have sex and see what happens

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:He'll give you the answer he thinks you want, even if it isn't the truth.

Yes.

Pretty much any time a woman asks "what are you looking for" they mean "I will only sleep with you if we have an exclusive, committed relationship."

Men know this so will reply in affirmative. Some men meet it. Others go on to band the other chicks in his Bumble queue.

Yep. Even in affairs- men will lie and say they are looking to leave their wives or very least that they “love you too”. Lying out their buttholes to keep having sex.

Sooo basically everything’s a gamble.

Well a man an affair is obviously a liar. And your already know the stats: you have a 2% chance of happily ever after. And then, what he does with you (cheat), he will do to you (if you one of the APs in the 2%). Hardly a catch

With singles, you turn on your radar. You get to know other people in his life. You judge his actions not the crap he spews out if his mouth. And you hear what he is actually saying, instead of hearing what you want to hear.