High school girl friend drama?

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry OP! It is truly heartbreaking for girls to experience this. Nothing said will help her but I do think it’s a lot social media. Girls are mean anyhow and behind a screen of “likes” and “posts”- girls feel especially left out and bad. It’s so bad.
All the tips adults give- albeit true- won’t help her feel better.

We went through a ton of it 8th grade. What I ended up doing is using it to make sure my daughter wasn’t a “mean” girl. We coached her on relationships and how not to make others feel. It did to us exploring and monitoring her online social media life a lot more and although she wasn’t a mean girl- she was getting bit possessive of friends. But it was more an eye opener of what goes on in social media and with teens. It is Awful!
Read the book “Untangled” and “Dial down the drama”- i think those are the two- pretty helpful.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. I thought we were done with this in middle school but the mean girl bs is back, high school (senior!) edition. Exclusion, gaslighting, etc. I feel so bad for my DD who was just so happy to be back in-person and wants to finish her senior year without all the drama.

Is anyone else dealing with this? I'm wondering if it's pandemic related? My vague recollection was by the time we were seniors in high school this nonsense was over.

I seriously doubt it. You were either oblivious, or one of the mean girls.

It’s the norm, but less blunt.

OP here...um, no. Serious nerd in high school. Actually, still a serious nerd. And I was pretty attuned to the mean girl dynamics throughout middle school and early high school so I'd be surprised if I suddenly became oblivious to it.

NP. I don't know anything about whether you were or not, but nerds can definitely be mean girls.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. I thought we were done with this in middle school but the mean girl bs is back, high school (senior!) edition. Exclusion, gaslighting, etc. I feel so bad for my DD who was just so happy to be back in-person and wants to finish her senior year without all the drama.

Is anyone else dealing with this? I'm wondering if it's pandemic related? My vague recollection was by the time we were seniors in high school this nonsense was over.

I seriously doubt it. You were either oblivious, or one of the mean girls.

It’s the norm, but less blunt.

Classic! A perfect post from a mean adult - lovely!

🪞

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If she hasn’t experienced this until her senior year, it is very possible that she was once the mean girl, and is not used to the tables being turned on her. Usually by senior year the non-mean girls will have the knowledge on how to stay away from this type of drama.

Um...no. She went through hell in middle school with the same garbage, FINALLY switched friend groups at the end of 8th grade and has had a fairly drama-free high school life (though was all remote last year) until recently when this group (by and large the same groups she has been friends with since the end of 8th group) started up this nonsense. She has always been the target and suffers from severe self-esteem/anxiety issues...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sigh. I thought we were done with this in middle school but the mean girl bs is back, high school (senior!) edition. Exclusion, gaslighting, etc. I feel so bad for my DD who was just so happy to be back in-person and wants to finish her senior year without all the drama.

Is anyone else dealing with this? I'm wondering if it's pandemic related? My vague recollection was by the time we were seniors in high school this nonsense was over.

I seriously doubt it. You were either oblivious, or one of the mean girls.

It’s the norm, but less blunt.

Classic! A perfect post from a mean adult - lovely!

Ok, mean girl.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m so sorry OP! It is truly heartbreaking for girls to experience this. Nothing said will help her but I do think it’s a lot social media. Girls are mean anyhow and behind a screen of “likes” and “posts”- girls feel especially left out and bad. It’s so bad.
All the tips adults give- albeit true- won’t help her feel better.

We went through a ton of it 8th grade. What I ended up doing is using it to make sure my daughter wasn’t a “mean” girl. We coached her on relationships and how not to make others feel. It did to us exploring and monitoring her online social media life a lot more and although she wasn’t a mean girl- she was getting bit possessive of friends. But it was more an eye opener of what goes on in social media and with teens. It is Awful!
Read the book “Untangled” and “Dial down the drama”- i think those are the two- pretty helpful.

Thanks- I read Untangled years ago but will check out the other one...