How to attract the "right" FWB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-40's, separated, with no intentions of ever getting married again. Have been using apps to find an FWB-type relationship and it's crickets out there. I'm surprised that you, OP are having a problem. I thought women would have a buffet table to pick someone with who they vibe with.

OP here. I'm a little surprised as well, because I am attractive. I'm assuming because I have a kid it throws them off- though I am NOT looking for a stepdad, husband, or to introduce my kid to any man, at all. I've thought about removing the kids part completely from my profile, but I think it's a bit deceitful.

44-year-old PP here. My profile says “have kids; do not want more.” There is no other mention of my kids. I have no problem getting interest from men ages 34-45. I don’t go above that age—no need to. I am not sure why you are having a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm mid-40's, separated, with no intentions of ever getting married again. Have been using apps to find an FWB-type relationship and it's crickets out there. I'm surprised that you, OP are having a problem. I thought women would have a buffet table to pick someone with who they vibe with.

OP here. I'm a little surprised as well, because I am attractive. I'm assuming because I have a kid it throws them off- though I am NOT looking for a stepdad, husband, or to introduce my kid to any man, at all. I've thought about removing the kids part completely from my profile, but I think it's a bit deceitful.

44-year-old PP here. My profile says “have kids; do not want more.” There is no other mention of my kids. I have no problem getting interest from men ages 34-45. I don’t go above that age—no need to. I am not sure why you are having a problem.

I’m going for the same age range, but I think maybe I need to go younger. I also only mention just that- no pics of my kid and I don’t write anything about her. I am getting “likes” but I think I am being a bit picky. I just remember online dating about ten years ago and just having so many miserable first dates with decent guys. Feel like I wasted a lot of time, but maybe I just need to change my mindset into a “learning experience”

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:What is the difference between a FWB and a committed relationship between two people with intimacy issues?

This question makes no sense. A FWB is not a relationship and it mainly revolves around sex. A committed relationship is not a FWB and FWBs don't have intimacy issues...the point is the sex, mainly. They don't have relationship problems because they are not in a relationship that is "going somewhere"--which are committed relationship problems. If there is a problem, the FWB situation ends. And there are no intimacy issues...otherwise they would not be FWBs.

It's a free hooker

[Anonymous]

Lol at all the women that want to f*ck randos and think those randos will give them exclusivity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lol at all the women that want to f*ck randos and think those randos will give them exclusivity.

Yeah, that is pretty unrealistic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:35 yo F, divorced with young child. No desire to get re-married or be in a LTR- just FWB, someone to grab a meal with. Yes, a FWB, but I don't want to sleep with just anyone. I find that I attract, well, losers (uneducated, not interesting, no hobbies, nothing in common, etc)., when I write on my online profile that I want something casual, vs the opposite when I write I want a relationship- but the latter of these men want the white-picket-fence-family (or they're "ethically non-monogamous" which I'm also not interested in ).

Take a few years out to grow up, and take care of your child. Get some therapy while you're at it.

[Anonymous]

anal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:35 yo F, divorced with young child. No desire to get re-married or be in a LTR- just FWB, someone to grab a meal with. Yes, a FWB, but I don't want to sleep with just anyone. I find that I attract, well, losers (uneducated, not interesting, no hobbies, nothing in common, etc)., when I write on my online profile that I want something casual, vs the opposite when I write I want a relationship- but the latter of these men want the white-picket-fence-family (or they're "ethically non-monogamous" which I'm also not interested in ).

Take a few years out to grow up, and take care of your child. Get some therapy while you're at it.

They’re very well taken care of and live with me full time. Nothing wrong with having some adult time outside the house after they’re asleep. I go out with my girlfriends for dinner after my kid is asleep once a week, I suppose that is wrong to you too.

[Anonymous]

Op, y ou can settle on this by either going on a lot of dates followed by sleeping with different men. There is no way of knowing about all this via an online forum.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:anal.

+100.

Bring some excitement, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the difference between a FWB and a committed relationship between two people with intimacy issues?

This question makes no sense. A FWB is not a relationship and it mainly revolves around sex. A committed relationship is not a FWB and FWBs don't have intimacy issues...the point is the sex, mainly. They don't have relationship problems because they are not in a relationship that is "going somewhere"--which are committed relationship problems. If there is a problem, the FWB situation ends. And there are no intimacy issues...otherwise they would not be FWBs.

It's a free hooker

Exactly.