I think my au pair might be lying about her age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Would you do the same for your coworkers who do not appear their stated age?

I mean, maybe? If someone claimed to be a 22 yr old recent college graduate and had crows feet and forehead lines I might do a little digging for a graduation announcement.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

Why? Pretty easy to falsify a birth certificate

And get it past a passport office?

Birth certificate fraud happens in many countries, including South America. Passport office fraud less so, but birth certificate fraud complicates their work.

OP you need to ask yourself what difference it would make to you and your family if your au pair were older than the agency said she was.

[Anonymous]

There is no way you can tell a 30 year old from 22 just by looking. Especially when they are from another country. So most likely you are simply wrong. You should get to know her. Have her talk about her background and I bet that will lead you to an answer. I also wanted to say 22 year-olds are not nearly as good at taking care of kids as older people. The perfect nanny is a 50 year-old woman who has grown children. 22 year-olds still want to go out with their friends every night and find a boyfriend. All they want is some cash and a life experience. They don’t want to take care of your kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Who cares? Also, IMO it's extremely difficult to guess age accurately. You shouldn't assume you're right - it's much more plausible that you are wrong than that she faked her age.

That’s why I’m asking. For an American it would be obvious to me that I’m wrong. Faking all the documentation would be hard. I just don’t know how hard it would be for her.

She’s probably not using fake documents. If anything, she’s probably using a younger sister’s or cousin’s birth certificate/passport.

[Anonymous]

For the people saying "who cares?" Are you idiots? This isn't just an employee but someone living in OP's home. If she's lying about something as simple as her age, red damn flag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For the people saying "who cares?" Are you idiots? This isn't just an employee but someone living in OP's home. If she's lying about something as simple as her age, red damn flag.

There is absolutely no proof that this woman lied.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you do the same for your coworkers who do not appear their stated age?

I mean, maybe? If someone claimed to be a 22 yr old recent college graduate and had crows feet and forehead lines I might do a little digging for a graduation announcement.

Why? What’s it to you?

[Anonymous]

Just start singing “Who let the dogs out” and if she sings the next line then she is at least 30.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just start singing “Who let the dogs out” and if she sings the next line then she is at least 30.

You’re joking but I had been trying to put it out of my mind, and then bizarrely she knew a reference from a 1990s kids movie that isn’t a “cult classic” and I was like, ??? And then started this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Would you do the same for your coworkers who do not appear their stated age?

I mean, maybe? If someone claimed to be a 22 yr old recent college graduate and had crows feet and forehead lines I might do a little digging for a graduation announcement.

Why? What’s it to you?

If someone is faking their identity? Seems like a big deal to me in any work environment.

[Anonymous]

If you like her, who cares?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel completely insane even posting this but I have no idea what to think.

Our au pair came to us via rematch. She was our first au pair from South America. After au pair and my mom spent a week together on vacation, my mom said she thinks our au pair is around 30, not 22 as she claims. I don’t know what to think. It’s true that she looks older, but I’m this day and age how could someone falsify their age? Would this even be possible from South American countries? I have no idea what I should do. Is this a completely crazy idea that I should just put out of my mind?

Does your mother also think that Elvis is still I e. I think both of you are nuts!

[Anonymous]

Some rich people "problems" really make me want to vomit.

[Anonymous]

If you knew anything about the vetting and interview process, even for a tourist visa -- let alone a work/student/exchange visa -- you would know that no one here on a valid visa would be using fraudulent documents. Tons of actually legitimate people get rejected if a consular officer even remotely believes there could possibly be fraud involved.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Just start singing “Who let the dogs out” and if she sings the next line then she is at least 30.

You’re joking but I had been trying to put it out of my mind, and then bizarrely she knew a reference from a 1990s kids movie that isn’t a “cult classic” and I was like, ??? And then started this thread.

What’s the reference?