I think my au pair might be lying about her age

[Anonymous]

I feel completely insane even posting this but I have no idea what to think.

Our au pair came to us via rematch. She was our first au pair from South America. After au pair and my mom spent a week together on vacation, my mom said she thinks our au pair is around 30, not 22 as she claims. I don’t know what to think. It’s true that she looks older, but I’m this day and age how could someone falsify their age? Would this even be possible from South American countries? I have no idea what I should do. Is this a completely crazy idea that I should just put out of my mind?

[Anonymous]

Yes this is a crazy idea.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

No it isn’t.
Not if you are entrusting this person to care for your precious children.

If you really think she could be lying - I would simply contact the agency where she came from and ask them.

Good luck!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

No it isn’t.
Not if you are entrusting this person to care for your precious children.

If you really think she could be lying - I would simply contact the agency where she came from and ask them.

Good luck!

If the agency had proof of this they would not have sent her. That won’t solve anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

Why? Pretty easy to falsify a birth certificate

[Anonymous]

I thought you were going to say she might be 16. Personally I’d rather have a 30 year old than a 22 year old so I’m not sure I’d do anything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

Why? Pretty easy to falsify a birth certificate

And get it past a passport office?

Americans are notoriously bad at identifying the age of people of different races and cultures. Accusing someone of visa fraud because an elderly person misjudged their age is pretty terrible.

[Anonymous]

OP, why did your mom think she is older?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

Why? Pretty easy to falsify a birth certificate

Realistically, she wouldn’t falsify a birth certificate. The way this is done is that she would use someone else’s birth certificate. Probably a sister or cousin. Someone who looks similar enough that it wouldn’t raise alarms. I bet she just aged out of the program and used a family member’s identity to sign up again.

[Anonymous]

Tell her you need to send a copy of her drivers pic to your insurance company or something. Once you’ve seen the license with the dob let it go….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I feel completely insane even posting this but I have no idea what to think.

Our au pair came to us via rematch. She was our first au pair from South America. After au pair and my mom spent a week together on vacation, my mom said she thinks our au pair is around 30, not 22 as she claims. I don’t know what to think. It’s true that she looks older, but I’m this day and age how could someone falsify their age? Would this even be possible from South American countries? I have no idea what I should do. Is this a completely crazy idea that I should just put out of my mind?

Why does it matter? And some 22 year olds do look older.

[Anonymous]

We have had seven au pairs from South America. Our au pairs from Peru and Bolivia were from indigenous backgrounds. Both could have falsified documents (especially from Bolivia) but both could also have been anywhere from 16 to 40. It is hard to tell the age of someone with that background as a Caucasian.

[Anonymous]

Ah mom causing trouble….

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes this is a crazy idea.

Why? Pretty easy to falsify a birth certificate

And get it past a passport office?

Americans are notoriously bad at identifying the age of people of different races and cultures. Accusing someone of visa fraud because an elderly person misjudged their age is pretty terrible.

I’m OP and my mom is right. She doesn’t look early 20s at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: We have had seven au pairs from South America. Our au pairs from Peru and Bolivia were from indigenous backgrounds. Both could have falsified documents (especially from Bolivia) but both could also have been anywhere from 16 to 40. It is hard to tell the age of someone with that background as a Caucasian.

What makes you say that? Ugh. For context my au pair is from Colombia.