Anonymous wrote:Ignore the text. Delete it if it is bothering you to look at it but only because of that. You don’t need the text as proof of anything. Your mom feels caught in the middle and is likely trying to make peace in her own way even though she’s going about it the wrong way.
My sister and I didn’t speak regularly for a couple of years over something with our kids. My mother would do similar and then my dad would call and say things like he’s accepted he will never be able to have family functions again but we are killing our mother and maybe we can make up at her funeral someday. I ignored all of that.
My sister and I ended up working through some of it and it’s been years now. I can’t say my parents helped. They often made it worse.
Good luck. These family situations are not easy and sometimes a cooling off period is really for the best.
Not OP, but just wanted to say i used to delete my mom's rants, but then i would gaslight myself into thinking she's that bad and I would keep getting sucked in. Now I keep them and I go back and remember not to expect her to be rational.
To the poster above-did you ever have a good relationship with your sister? In my case...sorry to hijack...there is no foundation. She hasd thrown me under the bus and been cruel since I was 2 and she was 8. I suspect if there is any foundation of a trusting and healthy relationship there is hope. I am glad you and your sister worked through some stuff.
Good luck OP!
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