Is it normal for to date someone for four months and not have sex?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 55 and he is 60. We've been dating for four months but have only kissed. We see each other once a week - usually go out on dinner dates. I would never pressure him to become more serious, but at this point, I'm not sure I can do this anymore. Only want to continue seeing him if he wants to become more serious. I totally respect if he doesn't want to, but think I may need to bow out. I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. As the relationship stands, I don't feel like I can be open to being vulnerable when he doesn't seem to show an interest in becoming closer and more intimate.

Thoughts?

If only there were a way to find out what he’s thinking! You are both grown. Tell him what you want, ask what he wants and see if it’s compatible.

I wouldn’t date someone that long with sex, but that’s me.

Without sex

[Anonymous]

Maybe he just wants companionship? You need to have a conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Try initiating and see what happens. It's 2021 women can do that now.

If you have tried initiating and he's turned you down, you have your answer.[/quote

+💯 make a move OP! Discussing your feelings isn't going to make him hard.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Try initiating and see what happens. It's 2021 women can do that now.

If you have tried initiating and he's turned you down, you have your answer.[/quote

+💯 make a move OP! Discussing your feelings isn't going to make him hard.

"Kind sir, I have enjoyed your company for nigh 4 months now. I was ruminating recently that the timing could be ideal to engage in additional adult activity. Perchance, were you thinking of transporting me to Poundtown?"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Try initiating and see what happens. It's 2021 women can do that now.

If you have tried initiating and he's turned you down, you have your answer.[/quote

+💯 make a move OP! Discussing your feelings isn't going to make him hard.

"Kind sir, I have enjoyed your company for nigh 4 months now. I was ruminating recently that the timing could be ideal to engage in additional adult activity. Perchance, were you thinking of transporting me to Poundtown?"

+1 I find this is successful 100% of the time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

That is beautiful.

Why is that beautiful? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything, but I just don't see how surpressing your sexuality is beautiful?

+1. I don’t get it.

Suppressing your sexuality? Sorry, I'm not OP nor am I a virgin, but you guys are so rude and clueless. I think it's beautiful they waited for each other and showed that commitment. If you dont get it- you dont get it. And you're not supposed to

I did this thinking my husband was very religious and my ex turned out to be gay 15 years later. Plus he stopped attending and eventually left the church so so much for that devotion. It was definitely suppressing his sexuality. Partly why so many Christian men have so many sexual issues these days I suppose.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

That is beautiful.

Why is that beautiful? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything, but I just don't see how surpressing your sexuality is beautiful?

+1. I don’t get it.

Suppressing your sexuality? Sorry, I'm not OP nor am I a virgin, but you guys are so rude and clueless. I think it's beautiful they waited for each other and showed that commitment. If you dont get it- you dont get it. And you're not supposed to

I did this thinking my husband was very religious and my ex turned out to be gay 15 years later. Plus he stopped attending and eventually left the church so so much for that devotion. It was definitely suppressing his sexuality. Partly why so many Christian men have so many sexual issues these days I suppose.

BTW I still think 4 months is fine, but there would have to be some progression and sexual interest for me to keep going. I have enough friends and am not looking for many friends of the opposite sex.

[Anonymous]

OP please come back with an update after you’ve figured it out!!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

What specific passages in the Bible forbid premarital sex?

https://www.gotquestions.org/sex-before-marriage.html

BTW, if the Bible holds no authority for you, this question is moot. I'm merely responding because you asked.

I don't think that passage forbids premarital sex. I think that's someone's interpretation of that passage.

[Anonymous]

This man is done playing games and wants to be serious because he sees you as marriage material and therefore is waiting to have sex with you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This man is done playing games and wants to be serious because he sees you as marriage material and therefore is waiting to have sex with you.

Lol

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

That is beautiful.

Why is that beautiful? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything, but I just don't see how surpressing your sexuality is beautiful?

+1. I don’t get it.

Suppressing your sexuality? Sorry, I'm not OP nor am I a virgin, but you guys are so rude and clueless. I think it's beautiful they waited for each other and showed that commitment. If you dont get it- you dont get it. And you're not supposed to

I did this thinking my husband was very religious and my ex turned out to be gay 15 years later. Plus he stopped attending and eventually left the church so so much for that devotion. It was definitely suppressing his sexuality. Partly why so many Christian men have so many sexual issues these days I suppose.

BTW I still think 4 months is fine, but there would have to be some progression and sexual interest for me to keep going. I have enough friends and am not looking for many friends of the opposite sex.

Why would you date the opposite sex? Seems like you would be fine never having sex. What do you do after four months start holding hands? Is that progressive?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This man is done playing games and wants to be serious because he sees you as marriage material and therefore is waiting to have sex with you.

Yep.