Is it normal for to date someone for four months and not have sex?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

That is beautiful.

Why is that beautiful? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything, but I just don't see how surpressing your sexuality is beautiful?

+1. I don’t get it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

That is beautiful.

Why is that beautiful? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything, but I just don't see how surpressing your sexuality is beautiful?

+1. I don’t get it.

Suppressing your sexuality? Sorry, I'm not OP nor am I a virgin, but you guys are so rude and clueless. I think it's beautiful they waited for each other and showed that commitment. If you dont get it- you dont get it. And you're not supposed to

[Anonymous]

Female, 58. In our case, the chemistry was evident from the start. That said, many men have ED which isn’t an issue. If untreated, it IS an issue if he’s unwilling to do anything about it. In that case, and you are interested in increased intimacy, you are with the wrong guy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

What specific passages in the Bible forbid premarital sex?

https://www.gotquestions.org/sex-before-marriage.html

BTW, if the Bible holds no authority for you, this question is moot. I'm merely responding because you asked.

[Anonymous]

I think he is dating other women and getting his sex from someone younger than you

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think he is dating other women and getting his sex from someone younger than you

NP but I doubt it!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 55 and he is 60. We've been dating for four months but have only kissed. We see each other once a week - usually go out on dinner dates. I would never pressure him to become more serious, but at this point, I'm not sure I can do this anymore. Only want to continue seeing him if he wants to become more serious. I totally respect if he doesn't want to, but think I may need to bow out. I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. As the relationship stands, I don't feel like I can be open to being vulnerable when he doesn't seem to show an interest in becoming closer and more intimate.

Thoughts?

Maybe he is gay? Has erectile dysfunction?

I take issue with your question (is it normal?). Maybe you mean "is it common?"

Your needs are your needs. It is irrelevant if a group of strangers on the internet label you vs him "normal."

I would say that you want sex and he does not, for whatever reason.

If you like him a lot, invite him over for dinner. Serve wine, mood lighting etc. Don't be so passive.

If you are lukewarm, move on.

[Anonymous]

Or suggest a weekend away, when you propose one room?

[Anonymous]

I am a mid 40s male. I have always been in the range of 2-4 months. I don’t do casual sex. I need a pretty substantial connection with someone before intimacy.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't matter what's normal. It only matters that the two of you are compatible. Let him know what you want.

[Anonymous]

Not normal. I was in two short lived relationships that ended once we got intimate. I pushed for it since they didn’t initiate (as a woman I thought it was odd). 1st guy had ED from anti-depressants and the 2nd had what I think was a medical condition, maybe a micro penis (not just small, but didn’t work). Maybe I’m a little jaded but if it’s important to you, I’d find someone that matches your libido.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, my (now) wife and I dated for almost three years and didn’t have sex until our wedding night. But we’re Christians, so abnormal to most people.

That is beautiful.

Why is that beautiful? I'm not saying it's wrong or anything, but I just don't see how surpressing your sexuality is beautiful?

+1. I don’t get it.

Suppressing your sexuality? Sorry, I'm not OP nor am I a virgin, but you guys are so rude and clueless. I think it's beautiful they waited for each other and showed that commitment. If you dont get it- you dont get it. And you're not supposed to

Why was my question rude? I asked a question, which you ultimately answered ("I think it's beautiful they waited for each other and showed that commitment") - I appreciate your answer, but to call somebody rude and clueless is not necessary, when they asked a legitimate and respectful question.

[Anonymous]

Possiblities are a) he is married b) he is doing someone else and c) he is not over/still working through whoever made him single/still in love with that person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am 55 and he is 60. We've been dating for four months but have only kissed. We see each other once a week - usually go out on dinner dates. I would never pressure him to become more serious, but at this point, I'm not sure I can do this anymore. Only want to continue seeing him if he wants to become more serious. I totally respect if he doesn't want to, but think I may need to bow out. I want to be with someone who wants to be with me. As the relationship stands, I don't feel like I can be open to being vulnerable when he doesn't seem to show an interest in becoming closer and more intimate.

Thoughts?

If only there were a way to find out what he’s thinking! You are both grown. Tell him what you want, ask what he wants and see if it’s compatible.

I wouldn’t date someone that long with sex, but that’s me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have definitely been in relationships for four months without sex, but we did much more than just kiss. Pretty much “everything but.” For me it’s because I like to make sure it’s going to be a serious relationship and exclusive and also get STD testing first. So I date for a few months before I have sex with someone. Once a week and only kissing for four months is a bit unusual. But maybe not at 60? I don’t know, I’m younger

I’m 58. We bang sooner than later at this age. No time to waste!