What the hell? Were you raised in a barn? |
This is not the actual etiquette. You are always allowed to “mention gifts” to say “no gifts, please.” |
+1. I feel weird going empty-handed so we make a card. |
| My child likes making a card, and sometimes he will pick out some stickers with the kids’ favorite cartoon character so we will include that. |
Exactly. This is all you need to do. |
So rude to completely ignore the hosts wishes. People who do this are basically selfish. |
+1 |
people always bring gifts or gift cards |
| I loved them when they were a thing (kid was younger) and would bring a card with a homemade “gift certificate for a pizza and movie at our place”. Nobody took us up on it thankfully (kids weren’t close friends of my kid anyway). |
| I take a card. |
People who can’t follow instructions bring gifts. When I host a party and say, “no gifts,” it’s not some kind of secret code. I literally do not want you to bring a gift. You attending the party is sufficient, and I’m grateful you take the time to do so. I think it’s bizarre that so many people can’t understand that. |
Yes. When I say no gifts, I MEAN NO GIFTS. Stop bringing gifts when invitation states NO GIFTS. |
Stop bringing a card as all I do is toss it in trash. I ready have enough junk and I do not want more! I guess in future I need to say no gifts, no cards, no food, no alcohol of any kind. Maybe then people will get the message that I am inviting you because I want to see you and not caging for a gift |
| If they say no gifts I bring no gifts. It’s the people that *do* bring gifts anyway that should be embarassed. |
I don't bring one. No one in my social circle needs anything and can afford anything they want, especially more gifts/toys. "Gifts not necessary" I assume means "we really don't want more crap, but if you just cannot fathom showing up empty handed, do what makes you feel best." So, I am perfectly fine bringing nothing as I personally don't want more stuff and always say no gifts on invitations. I do have my kids make a nice card. |