Do you actually go empty handed to a no gift party?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate them too.

I have gone to a couple of these, and I was among a few who brought only cards. And the idiot parents put the gifts on display on a table. I felt embarrased. Never again!

Op here. We made a card and did not take a gift.

However, there was a gift table and a lot of gifts at the party. The birthday boy was very excited to see the gifts and wanted to open them. The mom said he had to wait until later.

So why would they say "no gifts" and then have a gift table?

These "no gift parties" are so rude.

[Anonymous]

Displaying gifts and opening them at a party so everyone can ooh and ahh and the kids measure the gifts against each other is tacky AF. It’s over. Let’s not do it anymore.

[Anonymous]

We had a party at a venue we metro’ed to so bringing home the gifts was an awful burden. My 4 year old had enough stuff already too.

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DC once was invited to a preschool classmate’s no gift birthday party, the host really don’t need anymore toy for their kid - the whole house is full of toys already. We just have DC make a card for the birthday kid, and donated to a non profit and typed the birthday kid’s name and printout for the kid. We thought it would be special for kids that have everything they want and need already.

[Anonymous]

If a parent specifies that they do not want their child to receive birthday gifts at their party, then they likely are saying that their child already has enough toys at home & they do not have the space to accommodate any more.

Personally I think it would be rude to go against the host’s wishes + arrive bearing gifts.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes I bring a book - reasoning you can’t have too many books. Then I joke - of course unless you already own this book that I’ve brought and you said no gifts because you don’t want junk and I just added to that with my duplicate book gift

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I bring a book - reasoning you can’t have too many books. Then I joke - of course unless you already own this book that I’ve brought and you said no gifts because you don’t want junk and I just added to that with my duplicate book gift

If you do this, at least buy locally and include a gift receipt.

[Anonymous]

My kid will still do a homemade card but nothing taped inside.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Always bring a gift.

If you do this to me I will Donate your gift.

[Anonymous]

We always bring a bottle of something in a gift bag

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have my kid make a card (or decorate one they picked out). Went to one this weekend where maybe 1/3 of the guests, judging by gift table, brought gifts. I admit that I still feel a little weird, but I have to assume the parents are telling the truth and don't want guests to bring gifts.

I think kids still like a personal card from their friend, though. At least my kids do.

Uh: no gifts + gift TABLE?? Talk about mixed messages.

We bring a small gift to no gift party, like a book or something after years of being the sole no gift rule follower and our child feeling embarrassed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have my kid make a card (or decorate one they picked out). Went to one this weekend where maybe 1/3 of the guests, judging by gift table, brought gifts. I admit that I still feel a little weird, but I have to assume the parents are telling the truth and don't want guests to bring gifts.

I think kids still like a personal card from their friend, though. At least my kids do.

Uh: no gifts + gift TABLE?? Talk about mixed messages.

We bring a small gift to no gift party, like a book or something after years of being the sole no gift rule follower and our child feeling embarrassed.

Op here. Maybe pp and I attended the same party.

[Anonymous]

Lol we hosted a no gifts party with probably 12 guests and every. Single. One. Brought a gift. So honestly that was the last time we’ll do that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DC once was invited to a preschool classmate’s no gift birthday party, the host really don’t need anymore toy for their kid - the whole house is full of toys already. We just have DC make a card for the birthday kid, and donated to a non profit and typed the birthday kid’s name and printout for the kid. We thought it would be special for kids that have everything they want and need already.

You donating to charity is special for you, not to a child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Always bring a gift.

If you do this to me I will Donate your gift.

That's fine. That's pretty sad for kids you don't allow them to have gifts.