Long term baby quitting - parents advice

[Anonymous]

2 weeks. Enjoy your new job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, be resolute in your decision because your current family will counter offer. They will ask you how much the new family is going to pay you. Be ready for that because if you let your decision be swayed by the counter offer, you will be a wreck emotionally. Should you stay, it will never be the same and there will be resentment from your current family.

Yup. You need to leave. BTW this is the same advice people in corporate America get. It’s always a bad idea to take the counteroffer. Your current family is going to panic when they start interviewing nanny’s who will charge double your rate and have strict boundaries about overtime and housekeeping. They’re going to resent you for leaving and making their lives harder.

Practice a script. “Thank you so much. I really enjoyed my time with the kids but it’s time for me to move on.”

Be polite but firm. DO NOT explain. You have made your decision.

Please, OP. Follow this advice.

2 weeks notice. Don't budge. Don't feel bad. This is their responsibility now, not yours.

[Anonymous]

2 weeks notice and then therapy to help you gain a backbone

[Anonymous]

I am in a similar situation OP, am feeling underpaid for doing great work.
Lucky you that you have a new, better offer‼️

Take it!
I get how your love for the kids made it so difficult to leave.

Try to keep everything as civil as possible for the kid’s sake.
Let them know that you would love to be able to stay in touch w/their kiddos.
Perhaps you can babysit them for occasional date nights or such.

[Anonymous]

Ugh. I really don't understand how people can short-change the person responsible for the safety and well-being of their kids. It's just such bad judgement!

Congratulations on the new job! This is your career and you need to make rational choices that are in your best interest as opportunities arise.

First--make absolutely sure everything is settled on the new job (contract negotiated and signed, start date more or less agreed upon) before you give notice!! Then (on a Friday to give them time to blow off steam over the weekend), let your current employer know. People take new jobs all the time and it's best to be short and sweet about it with no wiggle room for changing your mind and only a brief explanation. Thank them for the opportunity to care for their kids, let them know you learned a lot and that you will really miss the kids. Then let them know that after much consideration, you have decided to take a new career opportunity. Offer exactly the amount of time that your current contract requires. If they are able to find a new nanny soon, you could offer to overlap with that person for a few days to help them settle in and learn the routine. Stick to a firm date.

Prepare yourself emotionally for the saying goodbye to the kids. Let them know that you leaving has nothing to do with them and you love and will miss them. Even if the parents ask you to leave that day, ask if you can say goodbye to the kids. The closure is really important for both sides.Prepare yourself for the parents acting like jerks--people often behave poorly when they are stressed or surprised or both. It doesn't make it acceptable but it will likely happen. If this happens, stay calm and steady--it's temporary and you're on to better days.

This is a helpful blog post for getting yourself ready to go through this process--
https://www.nannycounsel.com/blog/saying-goodbye-a-nannys-perspective

Congrats and good luck OP!