Wife And I Disagree - Baby Registry

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Many of our friends and family have asked but my wife has been telling them we have everything we need. I feel like maybe we should just send it to those who ask.

People want to send you a gift regardless of your income and that you can easily afford everything you need. It's a way for people to feel involved and congratulate you. Send them the registry when asked. Or if you're registry now has only larger items, make a smaller registry with lower dollar items (basics, books, diapers).

I think it's more rude to say "no thank you" and that you don't want gifts because you have a lot of money.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just to elaborate on my response, wife is right in that she can afford to buy what she wants and is not looking for gifts, so it is rude. You are right that family and friends may want to send gifts. So they can send whatever they want to send without you asking for gifts. A registry is asking for gifts. If the people ask you what they can send, tell them then, or they can send what they would like to give.

-signed a mom who has never had a registry and graciously accepted presents that people wanted to give.

I like it when people have a registry. I want to know that I'm Getting them something they want or need

+1 I often google the names and order off of them, even if I weren’t invited to a shower (usually friends from years ago at my old job/city) or if they’re not having a shower.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You’re both right but with a caveat, you must only offer the registry when asked.

I did an Amazon registry for the completion discount, and we could afford it. My mom and a friend and a coworker asked if we have a registry, I send them the link. By the way, the registry was private.

This, wait till you are asked and don't send out an email saying here is our registry.

[Anonymous]

We did the same thing OP - the registry was mostly a way for us to organize what we needed. But when people asked if we had a registry, we sent them the link. I think it's fine to do that -- people WANT to help and support you, and I think it can be equally rude to not let them / shut them down when they want to help.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your family and friends will want to buy you things, and they will want to buy you things you want. So they will ask if you are registered anywhere. When asked, send them your registry info. Some people really like buying off registries and you are saving them the stress of guessing what to get you. Some people will send what they want regardless of registry. Providing it when asked about a registry accommodates all types of gift-givers.

This! A registry helps the gift giver so, so much. So if they ask for it, just give it to them and save them the time and stress of trying to figure out what you may have, what you may want, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone is going to ask you if you have a registry. Just make one, share it with those who ask, and make sure you put some inexpensive stuff on it.

This.

[Anonymous]

Buy what you need for the baby day 1 (stroller, bassinet, changing pad, car seat etc) and leave everything else on the registry. Many people like getting you something they know you actually need or want. You can buy it yourselves if you don’t receive gifts.

[Anonymous]

I just gave birth to my third. Didn’t do a shower obviously but opened a registry in target and Amazon to get the completion discount for the few things we needed. My aunt, my husband’s coworkers and a friend all somehow found the registry and got us things from off of it. If people want to get you something they will look for your registry or ask if you have one. No need to mention it unless asked.