Salary Requirements for a Wife?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was always attracted to very smart women and salary was irrelevant. I had a great education and I was ambitious so I figured I’d always be fine. So I ended up marrying a very smart woman and that was all that mattered. She did have a good career and that was a bonus.

+1

I don’t care how hot a woman is. If she’s dumb and/or lacking ambition I’m highly turned off.

My wife was a seriously hot, smart, funny scientist with great credit, a great job and no debt when we met in our mid 20s.

If she were just seriously hot I wouldn’t have experienced the animal attraction I had for her since the big brain (which humor/wit goes hand and hand with) was part of the package.

I met a hottie at work who had full scholarships right through grad school and something like 1580 on her SAT’s (about 400 above mine!) and she was the ultimate turn on. She had a really good job but her salary had nothing to do with my interest. We were good business friends but she was out of my league but then she asked me out. Stunned!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was always attracted to very smart women and salary was irrelevant. I had a great education and I was ambitious so I figured I’d always be fine. So I ended up marrying a very smart woman and that was all that mattered. She did have a good career and that was a bonus.

+1

I don’t care how hot a woman is. If she’s dumb and/or lacking ambition I’m highly turned off.

My wife was a seriously hot, smart, funny scientist with great credit, a great job and no debt when we met in our mid 20s.

If she were just seriously hot I wouldn’t have experienced the animal attraction I had for her since the big brain (which humor/wit goes hand and hand with) was part of the package.

I get that posts like this are supposed to sound complimentary, but they always sound creepy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A well-off man doesn't care how much money a woman makes. He's not in it for the money. He has his own already. He doesn't need yours. That's why a well-off man will take the barista with the associates degree over the woman with two masters degrees. What else do you bring to the table in terms of a friendly, cooperative personality and good looks? Men don't change.

Statistically not true. Assortative mating is alive and well as you can see by the answers of many men in this thread. Highly educated and compensated men are not marrying baristas, they're marrying their colleagues and coworkers even if those women end up leaving the workforce at some point. It's not about money per se, but there is definitely an educational and class element at play.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

This seems to be a thing amongst people I went to college with. I can rattle off a dozen or more women I know who went to law, medical, dental etc. school (some even doing an expensive post bacc to get into medical programs) who immediately after getting married and/or having a baby quit and never looked back. Maybe these men won't marry them without professional degrees even if they don't use them.

Maybe she wants to raise her own children and married well? She sounds smart to me! Dude, you did well. Enjoy life, ignore the haters. They are jealous.

Why don’t men ever want to raise their own children?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A well-off man doesn't care how much money a woman makes. He's not in it for the money. He has his own already. He doesn't need yours. That's why a well-off man will take the barista with the associates degree over the woman with two masters degrees. What else do you bring to the table in terms of a friendly, cooperative personality and good looks? Men don't change.

Statistically not true. Assortative mating is alive and well as you can see by the answers of many men in this thread. Highly educated and compensated men are not marrying baristas, they're marrying their colleagues and coworkers even if those women end up leaving the workforce at some point. It's not about money per se, but there is definitely an educational and class element at play.

NP, but I think you are confusing things here. High SES men don't usually have a "salary requirement" for a wife, though they usually have an education/cultural background requirement that correlates with higher salaries. Put another way: the reason that those high SES men don't marry baristas is not because of salary, but rather, because of education or general family background. That is assortative mating. There are plenty of high SES men who marry highly educated women who either don't work or work very little -- you can see it all over the DC area.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman, but if I could get a sister wife my salary requirement would be 0.

Same! I would love a sister wife who cooks, cleans, plans social events, runs the kids to their activities, shops, budgets, plans travel. My life would be so much less stressful!

PREACH! lololol... calls to mind this famous satire piece " i want a wife"

http://www.columbia.edu/~sss31/rainbow/wife.html

[Anonymous]

My husband has many well off friends who are in high earning careers in addition to coming from wealthy families. Everyone of them married a girl from a lower SES. One was actually from a lower middle class background. He pays for her college debt and she promptly became a SAHM.

[Anonymous]

No in reality most men don't care about her salary. At least in real relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was always attracted to very smart women and salary was irrelevant. I had a great education and I was ambitious so I figured I’d always be fine. So I ended up marrying a very smart woman and that was all that mattered. She did have a good career and that was a bonus.

+1

I don’t care how hot a woman is. If she’s dumb and/or lacking ambition I’m highly turned off.

My wife was a seriously hot, smart, funny scientist with great credit, a great job and no debt when we met in our mid 20s.

If she were just seriously hot I wouldn’t have experienced the animal attraction I had for her since the big brain (which humor/wit goes hand and hand with) was part of the package.

I love this post. This is my experience with many of the men I respect. They want someone who is attractive but also someone who is smart/independent etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

DP but I am a lawyer turned SAHM. It got too hard to have 2 big jobs once we had 2 kids. So I quit. DH had no desire to quit and he made more money. I didn’t have any loans because I had a scholarship for law school.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was always attracted to very smart women and salary was irrelevant. I had a great education and I was ambitious so I figured I’d always be fine. So I ended up marrying a very smart woman and that was all that mattered. She did have a good career and that was a bonus.

+1

I don’t care how hot a woman is. If she’s dumb and/or lacking ambition I’m highly turned off.

My wife was a seriously hot, smart, funny scientist with great credit, a great job and no debt when we met in our mid 20s.

If she were just seriously hot I wouldn’t have experienced the animal attraction I had for her since the big brain (which humor/wit goes hand and hand with) was part of the package.

I get that posts like this are supposed to sound complimentary, but they always sound creepy.

So you prefer the men that just want a woman for her body/looks and no brains. Got it. Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was always attracted to very smart women and salary was irrelevant. I had a great education and I was ambitious so I figured I’d always be fine. So I ended up marrying a very smart woman and that was all that mattered. She did have a good career and that was a bonus.

+1

I don’t care how hot a woman is. If she’s dumb and/or lacking ambition I’m highly turned off.

My wife was a seriously hot, smart, funny scientist with great credit, a great job and no debt when we met in our mid 20s.

If she were just seriously hot I wouldn’t have experienced the animal attraction I had for her since the big brain (which humor/wit goes hand and hand with) was part of the package.

I get that posts like this are supposed to sound complimentary, but they always sound creepy.

So you prefer the men that just want a woman for her body/looks and no brains. Got it. Good luck with that.

yea, I don't understand why that ^PP finds that post creepy.

-woman

[Anonymous]

Salary wasn’t a requirement but brains and ambition were. If she wanted to be the best special Ed teacher I would have been fine. I was confident in my own ability to make enough money to live comfortably. Plenty of other things were more important then her salary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

DP but I am a lawyer turned SAHM. It got too hard to have 2 big jobs once we had 2 kids. So I quit. DH had no desire to quit and he made more money. I didn’t have any loans because I had a scholarship for law school.

I met a few women in law school who were there to find high earning husbands. Many succeeded. Tuition was paid by parents so NBD.

I went to law school. Married a non lawyer years later. SAHM for a bit Bc I wanted to raise my own children, but then went back to WAHM lawyer

[Anonymous]

law schools give out scholarships? is it pretty common?