Salary Requirements for a Wife?

[Anonymous]

Did any men here take salary into account while dating? How much and why?

[Anonymous]

According to DCUM, the sweet spot would be a totally flexible, WFH, 30 hour a week job with excellent retirement and benefits that pays 200k a year.

[Anonymous]

$1M plus equity and carry
Lots of $250k board seats
Flexible job with 3 day weekends in the summer
Excellent multitasking skills to manage the house, staff, kids, me
Sexy, fit, kind, forgiving, great parent
Saved money from bonuses, etc. over the years.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:According to DCUM, the sweet spot would be a totally flexible, WFH, 30 hour a week job with excellent retirement and benefits that pays 200k a year.

That’s me! It’s perfect.

But the salary grew over time. It wasn’t $200k when I met my husband at 25. It was $45k. I’m 50 now and it’s been maxed out here since I was 40.

[Anonymous]

Slightly more or slightly less than DH. Big difference will cause issues soon or later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:According to DCUM, the sweet spot would be a totally flexible, WFH, 30 hour a week job with excellent retirement and benefits that pays 200k a year.

That’s me! It’s perfect.

But the salary grew over time. It wasn’t $200k when I met my husband at 25. It was $45k. I’m 50 now and it’s been maxed out here since I was 40.

Who is your employer?

[Anonymous]

I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Mine did. I was upset. We stupidly married. We are divorced.

[Anonymous]

Mine did. I met them at first. Then we had a child with a chronic illness that he didn't want to deal with. I had to do it, and I took a big hit to my career. In his eyes, that's all my fault, and I am a big disappointment.

[Anonymous]

0 if she wants sex daily.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

[Anonymous]

I’m a woman, but if I could get a sister wife my salary requirement would be 0.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had none, but was happy my wife (who I met in law school) wanted to be a SAHM, so it worked out perfectly.

Why in the world did your wife go to law school if her goal was SAHM? just to meet a husband?

I was going to ask the same thing. That's a lot of money down the drain!

[Anonymous]

My DH didn't have a salary requirement, but he was up front he did not want to be married to a SAHM. That was fine by me (I am not cut out for SAH) with the understanding we would be equal partners in household management and childcare. That has worked out, more or less.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a woman, but if I could get a sister wife my salary requirement would be 0.

Same! I would love a sister wife who cooks, cleans, plans social events, runs the kids to their activities, shops, budgets, plans travel. My life would be so much less stressful!